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allergy trifectaI love Spring! Flowers are blooming, grass turns green and pollen is in the air! And right now the Bay Area, where I live, is thriving in pollen from all the much-needed rain we’ve received.

In the past this was my worse time of year because I suffered with allergies. I grew-up on a farm in Connecticut and was allergic to just about everything; hay, rag weed, house dust, flowers and cats. I can remember sneezing consecutively until I was weak. It was terrible. I had to get an allergy shot once a week and took pills that made me sleepy.

After high school I moved to the desert in Arizona and the allergies seemed to disappear. I assumed I had outgrown them. Fast forward twenty years later and I’m living in the Bay Area and guess what? The allergies returned. I was hosting a live call-in radio show at the time and people were actually calling in, not to ask a question, but to give me suggestions on how to alleviate the allergies. Nothing worked. And I did not want to take medication again!

It was around this time that I was studying to become a hypnotist. My instructor was working with me one day and right before the session ended, gave me a simple suggestion: “You have no more allergies, you are completely allergy free.” I had actually forgotten he said this until a few days later, while hosting the radio show, my nose was clear and my eyes weren’t tearing. Wow! I was amazed!

I started testing myself to see if this was truly happening. I went for a walk in the Rose Garden which was in full bloom. I let my friends cat sit in my lap while we watched a movie. I was fine! No allergy symptoms at all. This was one of the first big ‘convincers’ for me that hypnosis really does help alleviate physical symptoms. On another day during my hypnosis training I regressed to several childhood emotional issues that acted as the starting point with the allergies. That was in 1993. Today I remain allergy free!

Another great allergy blaster is what I call the trifecta of allergy relief. This is a combination of three essential oils; lavender, peppermint and lemon. This combination works wonders to cleanse the air of pollen or dust spores that are floating around causing havoc. Lavender aids in relaxation which helps to open tight airways. Lemon is an astringent that also boosts energy levels. Peppermint helps to clear the sinus passages and relieve headaches that often accompany allergy symptoms.

Several drops of each can be added to a diffuser which is the best way to cleanse the environment. You can also add some drops to a cup of water and breathe in deeply – just be cautious not to put your nose too close to the cup as the peppermint can be strong!

If you suffer from allergies I encourage you to give both hypnosis and essential oils a go. Both are safe modalities to help alleviate the discomforts caused by allergies. Try them, and you can love Spring again too!

cracked eggBoth actually. When people call me asking if hypnosis will help their issue, they are usually thinking in terms of getting fixed quick; they want the presenting problem to go away as fast as it can. Initially, they may not be interested in investing lots of time or money into getting help because they’ve already been down that road with other therapies.

What I explain to people is this: Hypnosis is a great modality to end unhealthy, unwanted habits and a wonderful tool for behavior modification. A client walks in as a smoker and leaves a non-smoker. The client with fears or phobias ends the session able to get on the plane, drive over a bridge or hike in the woods where there might be a snake or spider. In this aspect, hypnosis is a quick fix and for many, the only fix they will need.

However, one of the questions I ask my potential new client is how long they have been indulging in the habit they no longer want, or living with the fear that has kept them locked down? If we looked at the presenting problem as an egg, this would be the outer shell. Inside that shell is the source of life to their problems: Low self-esteem, lack of confidence, being an  abuse or rape victim, fear, or guilt. The habit is how they have been coping with the real issue. The habit has been the band-aide to get them through the day. This is when hypnosis should be used as a longer process.

Your subconscious mind is the storehouse of memory for all your life experiences, both good and bad. At some point in time, usually when you were young, something happened to you that went into your subconscious mind and became the initial imprint for the problem you are dealing with today. Why are you self-conscious? What is the cause for such low self-esteem? What was the start of the anger issues? Only by going into your subconscious mind, via hypnosis, can the initial imprint be targeted and released.

So I tell the new client, hypnosis is a process. You can leave my office after one visit feeling great and ready to tackle the immediate challenge at hand, but realize you didn’t just wake-up one day with low self-esteem, anger issues or poverty consciousness. This way of thinking, feeling and behaving took time to become the foundation for who you believe yourself to be. And if you really want to create positive, permanent change in your life, I suggest you commit to a hypnosis program. And although a program will involve four or more sessions, it won’t be a ‘this-will-never-end-cycle’ of constantly going over the same situations in your mind again and again, as in classical talk therapy.

You’ll be able to release the source of the problems and all other contributing factors and then replenish your subconscious mind with the new thoughts, feelings and actions of how you want to be living your life. You’ll learn how to retrain your brain and change your perspective on how you choose to respond to the world around you.

Potential new clients get pretty excited when they learn they can take back control over their life and become the person they’ve always yearned to be in just a few months and not years invested in therapy. And of course, they always have a choice. That’s what freedom is all about.

So which is it for you, a quick fix or longer process? Find a hypnotist in your area. Check out my hypnosis programs on this blog site. Create the life you want!

Blessings to all who wander by to read this post. Thank you for sharing this with your friends!

 

 

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I remember thinking, when I first embarked upon my spiritual journey way back in the day, that I’d never be angry again. Then when I’d find myself being angry I assumed I came off my lofty perch and succumbed to a weakness, or had found a fault in my aspirations for perfection. Today I laugh at those assumptions and can assure you, that after thirty plus years of spirituality seeking, learning, teaching and practicing . . . I still have days when I’m angry. And sometimes I even enjoy this powerful emotion!

It’s a misconceived notion to think spiritually minded people don’t get angry. When Jesus went into the Temple and flipped over the tables and made a mess of things, I don’t believe he did so in a quiet, apologetic way. No, I believe he made some noise when he upturned those tables because he didn’t like the way the money changers were ripping people off as they exchanged their currencies to offer donations to the Temple. He was channeling the emotion of anger to make a point. Did he stay angry? No, he went off to meditate afterwards to clear his space.

You have a body, but you are not that body. Likewise you have emotions, but you are not those emotions. You are spirit. Your body is your house. The emotions are the language the body uses to let you know what kind of energy is moving through your environment. Anger is one of those emotions. The key is to learn how to discern whether the emotions you are experiencing are yours, or someone else you may be ‘matching’. For example, have you ever gone to work in a great mood, singing a tune, feeling high on life, only to start feeling crabby a few hours later? Now you’re thinking about how you hate your job or how your roommate or spouse didn’t put the cap on the toothpaste in the morning and boy, don’t they know how that really pisses you off?

But if you were able to step out of that moment and look around you, maybe you’d see a co-worker stewing at their desk with their face all scrunched with a clear look of agitation. Then you’d recognize it was their anger you were experiencing. It was their energy moving through the office, with their angry thoughts and feelings that went into your aura. Only when it reached your space you translated it into your thoughts and feelings. This is called matching energy. In my next post I’ll address what to do about that, but for now, let’s move on with the anger!

When used correctly, anger is a very powerful tool. When used incorrectly, it becomes a weapon. What’s the difference?

Anger as a weapon: Too many times, when people are angry, they spew the anger all about them at whoever, whatever is in their path. This is called ‘destroying outside your space’. Have you ever gotten into an argument because you were mad, said words you couldn’t take back and ruined a friendship or relationship? That’s an example of destroying outside your space. Or you get so pissed you pick things up and smash them to pieces? Again, another example of destroying outside your space. It feels good in the moment but you’re left picking up the rubble and trying to make amends.

Some people have no permission to express or admit they are angry and suppress the emotion deep inside them. The result is often acne, ulcers, IBS, cancer or other physical issues. Anger as a weapon has been turned on themselves.

Anger as a tool: The truth, is that anger can be a very powerful tool for destroying, cleansing and releasing the pictures or situations that caused you to be angry in the first place. The key is to learn how to run this powerful energy IN your body, not throw it all around you. At first it burns but then it’s like the refiners fire and before you know it, you are clear. My teacher once told me, when you are owning your anger and keeping it in your space, nobody else will know that you’re angry. This is not the same as suppressing it, this is putting that motive force to work for you!

Exercise: Here’s a great exercise to help channel anger that I still use today. And I literally mean today, I just came inside from doing it! All you need are some raw eggs and a felt tip marker.

Write on the eggs the person or situation that has you angry. Write the feelings that go with the anger; frustration, sadness, fear etc. Now go outside. Hold the egg(s) in your hands and imagine all the anger going into the eggs. Really get into it! Now throw the eggs, one at a time, at a fence or on the sidewalk, driveway – anyplace where they will SMASH! When you’re done, you’ll feel better. If you have no place to do this outside you can use your bathtub or kitchen sink. Try this and see how it works.

I encourage you to start using anger as a tool. If you need more help than a raw egg can offer, hypnosis is a great modality to release those deep-rooted anger issues. But think about it, the next time you find yourself getting mad or someone is pushing your buttons you can be thinking, “I have an egg with your name on it!”

Peace to all who wander by to read this post.

Happy-New-Year-Banner-3You have the power and the ability to make this year your best one yet. That’s right, and wishing and hoping has nothing to do with it!

It’s not about New Years Resolutions. It’s not about what you wish and hope will happen. It’s about making a decision and keeping your mind focused on the positive aspect once that decision has been made! What kind of decision you ask? How about deciding to stay more positive in the face of adversity? How about dedicating a few minutes every day for quiet, inner reflection? How about deciding to cancel out the negative chatter before you think those thoughts too long? Decide to do these steps and you will have created your best year yet. The rest of what you want to manifest will easily follow. And that’s what I want to talk about now!

Goals! Are goals important? Yes, goals are important because you need to have a specific picture to focus on when thinking about what you want. Remember, the Universe is a bountiful, gracious, 360º Giver. But it needs a form in which to pour itself into. Imagine a pitcher full of clear refreshing water. You are very thirsty. Won’t that water taste great? The Universe wants to give you this water. But if you don’t have a glass, where will the water go? The same is true with goals. You need to have a clear picture with what you want. “I want to be happy” isn’t a clear picture, there’s no place to pour that water. “I will walk for twenty minutes every morning and I will be happy” is a picture.

STOP!!!! Don’t go any further in this post until you’ve answered this next section.

First question. What is a goal you really want to bring into your life? Be daring, right here, right now, and declare what it is you want to do for yourself. Don’t say a goal you think you should want or what you think other people want you to want (because that isn’t confusing!) I’m asking you to declare a goal for you!

For example, one of my big goals for 2016 is to actually start writing the book that has been brewing inside of me for so long. This may not seem like a big deal, but this is the first year I’ve actually declared that as MY goal! So what is it for you? Write it down on an index card.

Next question. Why did you choose that goal? Again, this is honesty and specificity for you. This is the soul purpose or the heart of your goal.

As a hypnotist, I help people quit smoking all the time. When I ask them why they want to be a non-smoker they’ll usually say ‘because it’s bad for me’. That may be a true reason but it’s not a very happy reason to quit smoking. After some thought I’ll hear things like: I want to quit so I can save money. I want to quit so I can watch my grandchildren get married. See the difference? So what is your why for that goal? Write it down on an index card.

Last question: How are you going to accomplish this? Every goal to be reached should have at least five objectives, or action steps. Take a moment and write down five action steps you can do to help you reach your goal. These action steps are the ‘how to’ for your goal.

Keep these index cards with you. You might want to keep a set in your purse or wallet so you can read them during the day and another set by your bed at night. Read the cards right before drifting off to sleep and then again before getting out of bed in the morning. This is the first step in imprinting your subconscious mind with what you want to attract into your life.

The next step is to take some time, each day, to imagine yourself already doing, being, having your goal. Really get into it. Imagine yourself using all your senses, as if you’ve already accomplished the goal. How does it feel? Then, let it go!

You’ve just sent your order to the Universe. You’ve wrapped that order with images and feelings (positive emotions). Now the Universe has a form to pour its life-giving energy into. Take time each day to energize this goal and sooner than you think you’ll be amazed to realize you’ve attained it.

Law of Assumption: Here’s the missing ingredient to the Law of Attraction. Once you’ve taken the time to do the mental work of picturing and feeling what you want, get up and ACT as if you already have it! Don’t allow the thoughts of doubt to creep in. (If you have not yet read and worked with my previous posts on how to let go of the old patterns, I encourage you to do so!) Keep your mind focused on the decision that you made, then trust that the Universal Giver will honor those thoughts when the timing is best.

May 2016 be your best year yet – make it so!

Love and Blessings to all who wander by to read this post.

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My Christmas gift to you. I love the inner symbols of what the Christ Mass represents. I’ll be offering two live meditations for both the east and west coast time zones. I hope you’ll be able to join me.

Blessings for a beautiful Season, be it Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa or whatever brings you spiritual nourishment. And may 2016 be your BEST year yet!

The link to the meditations is here:
http://www.debibousheyhypnosis.com/classes.html

GoalsThe exercise I’m sharing today is one I’ve posted before and it is an important step in the process of manifesting health, wealth and abundant living. I encourage you to give your ‘mock-up’ space the respect it deserves and you will reap the benefits of taking this extra time of preparation. And this is the perfect time of year to be doing so!

I am constantly amazed at how the quality of my life keeps getting better and better in all areas of living and I know it’s because I faithfully work these exercises every year! In this past year of 2015 I have tripled my income as a hypnotist by attracting more clients and students. I have manifested a beautiful two-story loft for my hypnosis practice in Berkeley, California and I bought a new car. My health is fantastic and my marriage grounded and sound.

I’m not bragging. I’ve been on the other side of this picture. While raising my children as a single parent I was on welfare. I cleaned houses as I transitioned off state aide before taking the leap in faith by becoming a certified hypnotist. BUT, I was continually working on my inner self, cleansing my subconscious mind and working on my levels of havingness.

Tilling the soil of your subconscious mind can be compared to preparing the soil of a garden before planting new seeds; you want to uproot and cast aside the old, frozen stuck ways of thinking and feeling. These are the blocks, or, rocks, imbedded in your subconscious mind that creates the belief in thinking of lack and limitation. If you plant a new seed idea without clearing the soil, it most likely won’t sprout into what you desire. You need to clean out or destroy the old before bringing in, or creating, the new. This is the concept of creating and destroying.

Imagine you were given a bunch of money to buy a complete new wardrobe. When you get home from your shopping spree what must you do before putting away your new attire? You need to throw away the old worn clothing from the closet to make room for the new! The same is true for your subconscious mind; you need to clear out the closet of old thoughts of lack, limitation, poor health etc. before putting in the new thoughts of health, wealth and abundant living.

For this exercise, I suggest you get a small notebook, as you’ll be working with this for at least a week. You’re going to take a walk through your life as it is, right now. I want you to write down all the uncomfortable thoughts, disappointments and feelings around every aspect of your life. This isn’t meant to be a bummer session! It’s important to acknowledge where you are in any given moment of time. In scripture it says, “For nothing is secret that shall not be made manifest; neither anything hidden, that shall not be known and come to light.” Luke 8:17

Once you admit, which is to confess, how you feel about certain aspects of yourself and your life you allow yourself to realize you don’t need to stay in that state of mind any longer! It’s when we deny or pretend that the complaints, worries, disappointments are NOT there is when we block ourselves from moving forward with positive change.

Exercise:

In the notebook, create categories to help keep your thoughts organized. For example:

Physical: Start with your body. How do you really feel about it? Unhappy with the tummy? Wish the face didn’t sag at the jaw line? Write down all the feelings and thoughts about your body. You can even begin with “I admit I have these thoughts and feelings….” because now you’ve brought it out into the light!

Move out to the place where you live; your house or apartment. The neighborhood. Some things you have no control over and this isn’t about running away from situations. Again, it’s about acknowledging your thoughts and feelings.

What about your car or mode of transportation – write it all down!

Financial: What are your thoughts/feelings about your back account? Any debt, your job or lack of employment? Get the idea?

Mental: What are your thoughts about yourself or the world around you? I admit I complain about this or that. I admit I don’t think very highly of myself. I feel inadequate when….

Spiritual: What are your beliefs about God? Do you have any? Do you believe you’re being punished? Not perfect enough? Are you angry at a particular church or priest or minister? Do you remember who you are as spirit? Write it down!

Again, the idea is to till the soil of your subconscious mind to bring up all the old stuck ways of thinking and feeling. After you’ve taken the time each day doing this, go back and write down the positive things in each category. This will help neutralize any discomfort during this important process. I like to end each session by blessing everything I have no matter how I feel about it at the time. And remember, once you truly accept where you are the good news is – you don’t have to stay there!

Have fun!

Note: Please check my other posts as I have an entire Abundant Living Series! If you’d like personal help I invite you to check out my web site: http://www.debibousheyhypnosis.com

 

I meditate just about every day. I have been since 1978. I also teach others how to quiet their mind and sit still. Science is finding proof and validating the benefits of meditation: it relieves stress, lowers blood pressure, promotes better sleep, encourages a sense of overall well-being, to name a few. But there comes a time when we still need to get up out of the chair or off the floor and deal with life. This is when the benefits of meditation are put into practical, daily use. The key is to bring the calmness of mind and emotions with you, wherever you go.Meditation-leaf

But what happens if we get too comfortable in our stillness? Can stillness actually turn into stagnation? I believe it can. Let me explain myself.

I am a small business owner. My business is called Healed Heart Hypnosis. Using hypnosis and other metaphysical, mind-science techniques I help people end unwanted habits and patterns of behavior, release past time emotional trauma and create an action plan to achieve their goals and dreams. As a small business owner it’s up to me to find the clients who need my help. I use the same manifestation techniques to help energize my practice that I teach my students and clients. I believe in the concept; where you put your attention, energy follows.

This means, through-out the day I am always thinking about my hypnosis practice. I am visualizing working with clients and having students in my classes. I am picturing and feeling my phone ringing or receiving emails or PayPal notices that my recordings have been purchased. I’m visualizing all this from a mind-set of gratitude as if everything has already happened, not with an attitude of ‘oh please let this work.’ See the difference? I practice these exercises while washing the dishes, cleaning the house, even when riding on the back of my husbands motorcycle. And I usually will always be contacted within the day by a potential new client or student.

With that said, I STILL need to implement physical activity. I work on my web site, send out mailers, write a blog, add content to my Google+ pages and other social network avenues – all the while, visualizing people contacting me. I know how easy it is to fall into the comfort zone of being self-employed, I see it all the time. And this is where I see stillness turning into stagnation. Lots of people get stuck in the meditating, metaphysical mind-set that the Universe will provide if ‘I just stay quiet and visualize all day.’. Yes, the Universe will provide, but there’s another saying; God helps those who help themselves.

You’ve got to be enthused to energize your business daily. Do something to keep the energy of your business in present time.

When was the last time you made a change on your web pages? When people go to your site and see the same thing over and over, or the date hasn’t been updated in six months to a year, they’re going to think you’re not in business anymore. Do something!

When was the last time you created a ‘Monthly Special’ or ‘Call to Action’? Do something!

This can also be applied to your business called LIFE! Are you stuck in a rut? Have you carved a groove into the zone of comfort and can’t seem to find a way out? Here’s a quick little exercise you can do.

Create three main goals for yourself. This can be three main goals for your business. Three main goals for finances. Three main goals for your lifestyle. Three main goals for your relationship space. You get the idea.

Ask yourself, how will my life be different once I achieve these goals? What will I be doing?

Now, what are the blocks you find yourself thinking about? I need an action plan. I don’t know where to find clients. I have to lose weight. I don’t have the money to do what I want to attract money. (That’s always a fun twist!)

These issues, blocks, beliefs are keeping you in that comfort zone of stagnation! It’s easier to stay where you are and dream than to get up and do something about it. I know, I’ve been there! So my challenge to you, is to – do something! Every day, do something to bring your business, your practice, your life onto a new level of existence. Don’t worry about the steps it will take to get there, just start.

If you are stuck and need guidance, I am happy to help you! If you’re not in the Bay Area I offer sessions via Skype, Facetime and phone. Hypnosis is the easiest way to access your subconscious mind to release those old patterns and habits so you can create new, healthy changes! Release the fear! Release the stagnation! When you do, your times of stillness will be that much more meaningful.

And no worries if you don’t want to work with me, I encourage you to seek out a hypnotist in your area. I believe the Universe brings everyone together who are meant to work with each other!

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Blessings to all who wander by to read this. I’ll return to my stillness now!

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