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I meditate just about every day. I have been since 1978. I also teach others how to quiet their mind and sit still. Science is finding proof and validating the benefits of meditation: it relieves stress, lowers blood pressure, promotes better sleep, encourages a sense of overall well-being, to name a few. But there comes a time when we still need to get up out of the chair or off the floor and deal with life. This is when the benefits of meditation are put into practical, daily use. The key is to bring the calmness of mind and emotions with you, wherever you go.Meditation-leaf

But what happens if we get too comfortable in our stillness? Can stillness actually turn into stagnation? I believe it can. Let me explain myself.

I am a small business owner. My business is called Healed Heart Hypnosis. Using hypnosis and other metaphysical, mind-science techniques I help people end unwanted habits and patterns of behavior, release past time emotional trauma and create an action plan to achieve their goals and dreams. As a small business owner it’s up to me to find the clients who need my help. I use the same manifestation techniques to help energize my practice that I teach my students and clients. I believe in the concept; where you put your attention, energy follows.

This means, through-out the day I am always thinking about my hypnosis practice. I am visualizing working with clients and having students in my classes. I am picturing and feeling my phone ringing or receiving emails or PayPal notices that my recordings have been purchased. I’m visualizing all this from a mind-set of gratitude as if everything has already happened, not with an attitude of ‘oh please let this work.’ See the difference? I practice these exercises while washing the dishes, cleaning the house, even when riding on the back of my husbands motorcycle. And I usually will always be contacted within the day by a potential new client or student.

With that said, I STILL need to implement physical activity. I work on my web site, send out mailers, write a blog, add content to my Google+ pages and other social network avenues – all the while, visualizing people contacting me. I know how easy it is to fall into the comfort zone of being self-employed, I see it all the time. And this is where I see stillness turning into stagnation. Lots of people get stuck in the meditating, metaphysical mind-set that the Universe will provide if ‘I just stay quiet and visualize all day.’. Yes, the Universe will provide, but there’s another saying; God helps those who help themselves.

You’ve got to be enthused to energize your business daily. Do something to keep the energy of your business in present time.

When was the last time you made a change on your web pages? When people go to your site and see the same thing over and over, or the date hasn’t been updated in six months to a year, they’re going to think you’re not in business anymore. Do something!

When was the last time you created a ‘Monthly Special’ or ‘Call to Action’? Do something!

This can also be applied to your business called LIFE! Are you stuck in a rut? Have you carved a groove into the zone of comfort and can’t seem to find a way out? Here’s a quick little exercise you can do.

Create three main goals for yourself. This can be three main goals for your business. Three main goals for finances. Three main goals for your lifestyle. Three main goals for your relationship space. You get the idea.

Ask yourself, how will my life be different once I achieve these goals? What will I be doing?

Now, what are the blocks you find yourself thinking about? I need an action plan. I don’t know where to find clients. I have to lose weight. I don’t have the money to do what I want to attract money. (That’s always a fun twist!)

These issues, blocks, beliefs are keeping you in that comfort zone of stagnation! It’s easier to stay where you are and dream than to get up and do something about it. I know, I’ve been there! So my challenge to you, is to – do something! Every day, do something to bring your business, your practice, your life onto a new level of existence. Don’t worry about the steps it will take to get there, just start.

If you are stuck and need guidance, I am happy to help you! If you’re not in the Bay Area I offer sessions via Skype, Facetime and phone. Hypnosis is the easiest way to access your subconscious mind to release those old patterns and habits so you can create new, healthy changes! Release the fear! Release the stagnation! When you do, your times of stillness will be that much more meaningful.

And no worries if you don’t want to work with me, I encourage you to seek out a hypnotist in your area. I believe the Universe brings everyone together who are meant to work with each other!

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Blessings to all who wander by to read this. I’ll return to my stillness now!


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Me on rock

New Hampshire

It’s hard to believe four years have passed since the Universe offered me such a great opportunity for growth and change. And I’m not so sure the word ‘offer’ is quite accurate because at the time it felt like I had been punched in the stomach. I’ve never really spoken about what happened but so many people have asked me about this, I decided to share my story. Don’t worry, I’ll do my best to keep this short. Ish.

Since 1982 I had been involved with a non-profit organization whose original mission was to help individuals get in touch with the God of their Heart and establish a personal relationship with Divine Source. I was ordained as a minister in 1983, was appointed Assistant Pastor of the church in 1984 and held the office of Bishop from 1994 until my departure in 2011. Within the organization was a school for metaphysical studies and also a school for hypnosis training and certification, both of which I was a director and principle instructor.

Many internal changes took place through the years and eventually it became a sick and toxic place – only I didn’t quite see it at the time. Yes, I saw things shifting and moving away from the original intention of the organization but I also continued to believe, very deeply, in the original picture and mission of the church. So I kept smiling and doing my best to keep things flowing by being a good steward and shepherd of the flock. Then in June 2011 I was called to an impromptu Board meeting. There were three board members at the time, myself and two other women. The other two had decided (without a vote I might add) that they thought it would be best for the organization if I no longer received a monthly stipend for my services; that because there had been a decline in students it would financially help the organization if I worked for free. But, I could keep 20% of all the hypnosis work I did.

I think this is when I had my first real out of body experience. I could see them talking and smiling but I was floating far above them, as if in a tunnel. Their voices were muddled. I wasn’t comprehending the logic of what I had heard. No stipend. No income. How was I going to pay my rent? How were my husband and I going to make ends meet on one income? I came back into my body hearing these words, ‘Debi, we can’t lower our stipends because we have bills to pay, you understand!’ Oh yes, I did understand. I understood how, even though these two women did not pay rent or utilities or gas for their free cars, that they were both stuck in survival, lack and limitation. I understood that even though they taught the techniques and concepts and stood behind the pulpit in service they did not, in that moment, have the faith they professed to maintain. I also understood I was leaving.

I took a week to meditate on my next step to make sure I wasn’t having a knee jerk reaction before sending in my letter of resignation. I was devastated. I was hurt. I was really pissed off. And I was so scared. I always thought I’d be at that place for the rest of my life, helping people, teaching and healing. All my sense of personal value was stripped. I felt like I had nothing to offer. If the people I had known, worked with and loved for twenty-nine years didn’t see me as anyone with value or purpose how could I help anyone else? One thing became very clear to me. All my years in training of applying the techniques and concepts had brought me to this point in time. The teaching was about to begin.

Hypnosis: Every day I went into hypnosis to release the emotional pain I was experiencing. Situations from my childhood were also bubbling to the surface because the emotions were similar. It was amazing to see how much crap I was still holding on to from years before. After the intensity began to subside I used hypnosis to create my new image of who I wanted to become.

Prayer: I prayed. Constantly. Sometimes my prayers were more of a plea, often I found myself begging for some divine intervention of understanding. But mainly I prayed to have the anger removed from my space and to allow forgiveness to flow for the situation and everyone involved. This didn’t happen overnight, but the bubble finally popped and I was set free.

Hiking: My husband and I started walking and hiking. Every day. Nature became our sanctuary. It’s difficult to hold on to hurt feelings under a canopy of redwood trees. And breathing in fresh ocean air can cleanse your mind and rejuvenate your soul faster than any written script or sermon. So the outdoors became our pulpit for the new beginnings in which we had embarked upon. And we continue to walk or hike every day!

Within one month of resigning I started a new business and created a new web site. Today I am humbled by our ever abundant, gracious Father and Universe for sending people to me for whom I can offer help and solace. I’ve worked with more people these last four years on my own than I ever was able to attract at the other organization. The Lord does work in mysterious way. I regret nothing from the past and am so grateful for this journey and look forward to all the adventures yet to come. And that’s my story. Or at least a good chunk of it.

If you are going through trials and tribulations, hang in there! There’s a greater reason and purpose that may not be revealed yet, but in time will be made known. If you need guidance with life transitions I can help.

The link to my web site is here: Healed Heart Hypnosis

Some of the sights during our walks:


Yellowstone Park

Donner Lake

Donner Lake CA

Glacier Park

Lake McDonald, Glacier National Park

Redwood Path

Redwood Regional Park, Oakland CA

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Santa-listBefore I share the next exercise, here’s a quick review of the exercises I’ve offered so far on our quest for living the abundant life.

We started with the Purge List: Writing down all the hurts, resentments and misgivings, those complaints and pet peeves you’ve been carrying around with you for so long. This began the process of stirring up and purging negativity from your subconscious mind.

Next I posted the Forgiveness Exercise video. This helped you release the past-time pain pictures so you could start healing your emotional body.

After that we focused on all the different areas of life where we had uncomfortable feelings. The categories for this were Physical, Emotional, Mental, Financial and Spiritual. The idea is that when we admit we have uncomfortable thoughts and feelings towards people, places and conditions in our life, we have let the light shine on those dark corners and the situations no longer have power over us. This work was done while listening to Mary Poppins singing her happy tune, ‘Just A Spoonful Of Sugar’! The exercise was completed by counting your blessings for all the positive things you are thankful for in your life today. This started to flip the polarity in your subconscious mind and re-frame your mind to focus on the positive which helped set the tone for a grateful Thanksgiving.

New Exercise: Your Wish List!

We’re still in the cleansing process but starting to put attention on what we want to manifest for the new year. Get your paper and pen ready. For those of you who grew-up celebrating Christmas with Santa Claus, this is akin to the letters we’d write to him each year, asking to leave all those fabulous toys under the Christmas Tree. There’s a great prosperity lesson within those letters to Santa that I’ll share in another post!

Step 1:
Write down everything you want to bring in to your life. The small and the big, the medium to the ginormous! Don’t worry about how you’ll be able to manifest each item. Take some time and focus on what you’d really like to have. Be sure to include good health on your wish list!

Step 2:
Get your mind quiet. Go back over the list and write down next to each item all the reasons why you can’t have those things. “I don’t have enough money, I don’t have enough time, I don’t have the space…” You get the idea! What you’re doing is shedding light on the blocks in your subconscious mind. These blocks have turned into beliefs. I bet you really do believe those reasons that dictate why you can’t manifest something! A belief is something we consistently think, picture and feel about ourselves and the world around us. It’s time to change your belief system, don’t you agree?

Step 3:
After you’ve completed Step 2, take a little break, then get your mind quiet again. Go back over your wish list and with each item ask the question, ‘who does not want me to have this?’ Don’t try to think of the answer. From the quiet stillness simply let a name come into your awareness. Why is this step important? Because quite often we get stuck in life based on how other people want us to be. People get comfortable when they have access to us, be it emotionally, physically – even spiritually. When we change our vibration by creating positive change in our life, those individuals get bumped out of their comfort zone and have to adjust. Another reason someone may appear next to an item on your wish list is because they’re in competition with you. If they can’t have something they certainly don’t want you to have it! This doesn’t mean these individuals are bad people. You’re simply beginning to discern energy in your space. There’s an old saying; misery not only loves company, it seriously demands it! Let yourself have fun with this process.

Step 4:
Now you’re going to burn everything you’ve written! Your Wish List with the reasons you can’t have those things and the names of the people who don’t want you to have them. That’s right! Get a big bowl or metal container and burn the paper. Watch the flames. Fire is a very powerful cleansing symbol for your subconscious mind. This action represents you releasing the old beliefs and purging your subconscious mind, clearing the way to begin planting the new seed ideas you want to be experiencing in 2015.

tombstoneAdded Bonus Exercise:
If you REALLY want to have some fun, write these words on separate pieces of paper: Can’t. Won’t. Shouldn’t. Impossible. Fear. Now go outside and have a funeral for those words. Bury them in the ground. Make the decision those words and the beliefs that are attached to them are dead to you. Say your good-byes and get rid of them! Anytime you find yourself thinking those dead words you will remember that you buried them and you’ll flip your mind in that instant, back to the positive way of thinking!

After the Winter Solstice on December 21st I’ll begin posting the exercises for manifesting. The energy flips on the Solstice, the purging season is complete and we focus on the Light and new awareness! Until then, keep up the good work of letting go!

Love & Blessings to all who wander by to read this post!


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One of the biggest challenges I see people dealing with when they want to create change is learning to be happy, or at least accept, where they are in life right now. How many times have you thought something like this: When I lose weight, I’ll be happy. When I finally have a relationship, I’ll be happy. When I have more money, I’ll be happy. When I move to a better location, I’ll be happy.

What’s your personal mantra for this? Fill in the blank for yourself: When ___________________, I’ll be happy.

All these conditions to personal happiness become the carrot being dangled out in front of you. You’re taking all your creative energy and sending it out to the future and leaving nothing to create with for the here and now. Your subconscious mind has been programmed on different levels.

Program #1) You can’t be happy right now because you haven’t met that goal.
Program #2) The belief states the goal is unattainable because so far, nothing has happened.
Program #3) There is something wrong with the way your life is today.

The first step to spiritual unfoldment is to learn to accept where you are in the moment. Once you do that the following realization is, you don’t have to stay there! By acknowledging the situations and circumstances that cause you to be unhappy is shining the light on them. Until now, you’ve been shoving them under the carpet, resisting them and wishing they’d just go away, while projecting all your feel good positive energy to some illusive time and place out into the future. This pattern gets exhausting and tends to create disease because you are not at ease in your thinking!

Does this mean you’ll never be able to create those changes? Of course not! But there is some housecleaning to be done! Are you ready? Let’s start some Mary Poppins music “Just A Spoonfull of Sugar” because this CAN be fun!

Grab your paper and pen. You’re going to create categories for the different aspects of your life. Examples:

Physical: Start with your body. Move out to your home. Your neighborhood etc. Write down what it is you don’t like about those things. Start the sentence with “I admit, I have uncomfortable feelings about……” and write them down. For instance: “I admit I have uncomfortable feelings about my weight….” By stating ‘I admit’ is akin to shining the light into a dark corner. You are acknowledging those thoughts and feelings are there. The moment you acknowledge their existence is the moment those conditions and circumstances begin to lose control over you. Take your time with this before moving to the next category.

Emotional: Write down the situations that push those emotional buttons. I admit, I get angry when I’m stuck in traffic, my boss yells at me, I admit I’m unhappy that I don’t have a relationship etc. Get them all out! The people and situations you are not neutral to – write them down!

Mental: What is the negative babble running through your mind? You know what I’m talking about, the negative self-talk that seems to flow so clear and strong. I admit I am tired of thinking I am unworthy. I admit I have negative thoughts about…you’re getting the idea now, aren’t you? That’s right!

Financial: Here’s a fun category! What can we find here? I admit I have fear about my bank account. Debt. Retirement. Write it all down. You want to purge yourself of all the uncomfortable feelings and beliefs that have been your personal roadblock to abundant living.

Spiritual: Are there stuck pictures in your subconscious mind about God and religion from your childhood? Do you believe you are not worthy to have a personal relationship with your Higher Self? Write this all down. Are you pissed at the Universe for the situation you are in today? You got it – write that down too!

Important next step! After you’ve written down what you are unhappy about from each category, go back and write down three to five aspects about those same things you are thankful for: I am grateful that I have a body. I love my eyes. I love the color of my living room walls in my home….see?. This is super important because one, you won’t be leaving yourself in a bummer state of mind after doing the exercise. And two, as you proclaim your thankfulness and gratitude for everything in your life you are actually blessing and energizing your life in the positive. You’ve finally moved onto the acceptance step and have started the process of abundant living! Now you can be at peace because you have allowed yourself to be there while knowing you can and will take the positive steps to create change. In the blog posts to come I’ll be helping you create practical goals to help you create your future how you want it to be!

If you are interested in receiving some personal help, I’m including a link to my Abundant Living Program: http://livingstonbousheyhypnosis.com/Sessions.html

And if anyone truly does want to sing while they do this exercise, I thought a dose of Mary would be fun. Enjoy!



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I was working with a client with my Abundant Living Programâ„¢. On our first day together I asked her what she wanted. “World peace” she replied. “OK”, I said, “but I don’t think you’ll get that in the time we have together, can you think of something else?” She thought for a bit then said “I’m always praying to keep my children and grandchildren safe and healthy.” “Well, that’s nice too and I’m sure your kids appreciate your prayers, but what is that YOU want for yourself?” She was stumped. And then she started to cry. Then she told me that she’s never been able to ask for anything personal and when she prays, it’s always for other people.

I asked her what she felt emotionally when she thought of praying for herself. Guilty.

I asked her what she felt emotionally when she wanted to manifest something for herself. Guilty and unworthy. Her truth – she’s never believed it was okay to want something just for her. And that’s why she was working with me, to break the cycle of lack and limitation so she could manifest abundance in her life.

Wanting something and believing you can have something are two different things. I discovered this when I first started my journey with manifestation and the Mind Sciences. I was in a class learning how to ‘mock-up’ or manifest things in life. The techniques and concepts were simple and made perfect sense to me. I was excited that soon I’d have all the things I wanted to help make my life more comfortable. I started with easy things like a free cup of coffee. Lo and behold, a few days after practicing the exercise, I was invited out for a cup of coffee. I knew I was on to something now!

At the time my only mode of transportation was a ten-speed bike. The rainy season was drawing near so I sat down one day and mocked-up a new car. I was seeing the car, imagining I was driving the car, looking forward to receiving my new car. I just wasn’t paying attention to the small voice inside of me saying ‘no way’ or the feeling of doubt I had about this car. What could go wrong? I was applying the information exactly as I had been taught.

The next time class met everyone was sharing their experiences. A student was all excited because she had been given a new car. A car much nicer than the one she already had. A car that was very similar to the car I had mocked-up for myself. I didn’t get a car, but she did. I think I actually cried a little and blurted out ‘you got my car and you don’t even need one!’ Our teacher used my experience as the object lesson for class that night.

I discovered my subconscious mind was acting on a deep rooted belief system of lack, limitation and no permission to increase or bring new things into my life. Not only did I feel guilty if I asked for something for myself, I didn’t believe I could have things that easily. I had to work hard for whatever I received.

This was a two-fold imprint in my subconscious mind. One aspect was the thoughts and feelings I was carrying deep within me that stemmed from my childhood and the conversations I heard my parents talking/fighting about over money. Money doesn’t grow on trees, only certain people get ahead in life…. you get the idea.

The other aspect was based in religion. It wasn’t spiritual to want things. Don’t be greedy. Don’t be selfish. Always think of the other person first. To be spiritual meant you shouldn’t have money or nice things. Has anyone reading this post ever experienced something similar?

What about you? Do you have a difficult time creating a picture for what you want? Do you feel guilty if you ask for something or pray for yourself? Do you say you want certain things but deep down don’t believe you can have them? This can be anything; health, finances, relationships, or a successful business.

I’ll be creating a series of posts that address these issues. The Autumn season is the perfect time of year to release blocks and old patterns of belief in lack, limitation and ‘non-havingness’. I’ll include simple exercises you can do to help clear out your subconscious mind so you can manifest more abundant living.

You can start now. Write down a list of things you want to bring into your life. What is it that you want? And how do you feel about wanting?


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