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Happy-New-Year-Banner-3You have the power and the ability to make this year your best one yet. That’s right, and wishing and hoping has nothing to do with it!

It’s not about New Years Resolutions. It’s not about what you wish and hope will happen. It’s about making a decision and keeping your mind focused on the positive aspect once that decision has been made! What kind of decision you ask? How about deciding to stay more positive in the face of adversity? How about dedicating a few minutes every day for quiet, inner reflection? How about deciding to cancel out the negative chatter before you think those thoughts too long? Decide to do these steps and you will have created your best year yet. The rest of what you want to manifest will easily follow. And that’s what I want to talk about now!

Goals! Are goals important? Yes, goals are important because you need to have a specific picture to focus on when thinking about what you want. Remember, the Universe is a bountiful, gracious, 360º Giver. But it needs a form in which to pour itself into. Imagine a pitcher full of clear refreshing water. You are very thirsty. Won’t that water taste great? The Universe wants to give you this water. But if you don’t have a glass, where will the water go? The same is true with goals. You need to have a clear picture with what you want. “I want to be happy” isn’t a clear picture, there’s no place to pour that water. “I will walk for twenty minutes every morning and I will be happy” is a picture.

STOP!!!! Don’t go any further in this post until you’ve answered this next section.

First question. What is a goal you really want to bring into your life? Be daring, right here, right now, and declare what it is you want to do for yourself. Don’t say a goal you think you should want or what you think other people want you to want (because that isn’t confusing!) I’m asking you to declare a goal for you!

For example, one of my big goals for 2016 is to actually start writing the book that has been brewing inside of me for so long. This may not seem like a big deal, but this is the first year I’ve actually declared that as MY goal! So what is it for you? Write it down on an index card.

Next question. Why did you choose that goal? Again, this is honesty and specificity for you. This is the soul purpose or the heart of your goal.

As a hypnotist, I help people quit smoking all the time. When I ask them why they want to be a non-smoker they’ll usually say ‘because it’s bad for me’. That may be a true reason but it’s not a very happy reason to quit smoking. After some thought I’ll hear things like: I want to quit so I can save money. I want to quit so I can watch my grandchildren get married. See the difference? So what is your why for that goal? Write it down on an index card.

Last question: How are you going to accomplish this? Every goal to be reached should have at least five objectives, or action steps. Take a moment and write down five action steps you can do to help you reach your goal. These action steps are the ‘how to’ for your goal.

Keep these index cards with you. You might want to keep a set in your purse or wallet so you can read them during the day and another set by your bed at night. Read the cards right before drifting off to sleep and then again before getting out of bed in the morning. This is the first step in imprinting your subconscious mind with what you want to attract into your life.

The next step is to take some time, each day, to imagine yourself already doing, being, having your goal. Really get into it. Imagine yourself using all your senses, as if you’ve already accomplished the goal. How does it feel? Then, let it go!

You’ve just sent your order to the Universe. You’ve wrapped that order with images and feelings (positive emotions). Now the Universe has a form to pour its life-giving energy into. Take time each day to energize this goal and sooner than you think you’ll be amazed to realize you’ve attained it.

Law of Assumption: Here’s the missing ingredient to the Law of Attraction. Once you’ve taken the time to do the mental work of picturing and feeling what you want, get up and ACT as if you already have it! Don’t allow the thoughts of doubt to creep in. (If you have not yet read and worked with my previous posts on how to let go of the old patterns, I encourage you to do so!) Keep your mind focused on the decision that you made, then trust that the Universal Giver will honor those thoughts when the timing is best.

May 2016 be your best year yet – make it so!

Love and Blessings to all who wander by to read this post.

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My Christmas gift to you. I love the inner symbols of what the Christ Mass represents. I’ll be offering two live meditations for both the east and west coast time zones. I hope you’ll be able to join me.

Blessings for a beautiful Season, be it Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa or whatever brings you spiritual nourishment. And may 2016 be your BEST year yet!

The link to the meditations is here:
http://www.debibousheyhypnosis.com/classes.html

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GoalsThe exercise I’m sharing today is one I’ve posted before and it is an important step in the process of manifesting health, wealth and abundant living. I encourage you to give your ‘mock-up’ space the respect it deserves and you will reap the benefits of taking this extra time of preparation. And this is the perfect time of year to be doing so!

I am constantly amazed at how the quality of my life keeps getting better and better in all areas of living and I know it’s because I faithfully work these exercises every year! In this past year of 2015 I have tripled my income as a hypnotist by attracting more clients and students. I have manifested a beautiful two-story loft for my hypnosis practice in Berkeley, California and I bought a new car. My health is fantastic and my marriage grounded and sound.

I’m not bragging. I’ve been on the other side of this picture. While raising my children as a single parent I was on welfare. I cleaned houses as I transitioned off state aide before taking the leap in faith by becoming a certified hypnotist. BUT, I was continually working on my inner self, cleansing my subconscious mind and working on my levels of havingness.

Tilling the soil of your subconscious mind can be compared to preparing the soil of a garden before planting new seeds; you want to uproot and cast aside the old, frozen stuck ways of thinking and feeling. These are the blocks, or, rocks, imbedded in your subconscious mind that creates the belief in thinking of lack and limitation. If you plant a new seed idea without clearing the soil, it most likely won’t sprout into what you desire. You need to clean out or destroy the old before bringing in, or creating, the new. This is the concept of creating and destroying.

Imagine you were given a bunch of money to buy a complete new wardrobe. When you get home from your shopping spree what must you do before putting away your new attire? You need to throw away the old worn clothing from the closet to make room for the new! The same is true for your subconscious mind; you need to clear out the closet of old thoughts of lack, limitation, poor health etc. before putting in the new thoughts of health, wealth and abundant living.

For this exercise, I suggest you get a small notebook, as you’ll be working with this for at least a week. You’re going to take a walk through your life as it is, right now. I want you to write down all the uncomfortable thoughts, disappointments and feelings around every aspect of your life. This isn’t meant to be a bummer session! It’s important to acknowledge where you are in any given moment of time. In scripture it says, “For nothing is secret that shall not be made manifest; neither anything hidden, that shall not be known and come to light.” Luke 8:17

Once you admit, which is to confess, how you feel about certain aspects of yourself and your life you allow yourself to realize you don’t need to stay in that state of mind any longer! It’s when we deny or pretend that the complaints, worries, disappointments are NOT there is when we block ourselves from moving forward with positive change.

Exercise:

In the notebook, create categories to help keep your thoughts organized. For example:

Physical: Start with your body. How do you really feel about it? Unhappy with the tummy? Wish the face didn’t sag at the jaw line? Write down all the feelings and thoughts about your body. You can even begin with “I admit I have these thoughts and feelings….” because now you’ve brought it out into the light!

Move out to the place where you live; your house or apartment. The neighborhood. Some things you have no control over and this isn’t about running away from situations. Again, it’s about acknowledging your thoughts and feelings.

What about your car or mode of transportation – write it all down!

Financial: What are your thoughts/feelings about your back account? Any debt, your job or lack of employment? Get the idea?

Mental: What are your thoughts about yourself or the world around you? I admit I complain about this or that. I admit I don’t think very highly of myself. I feel inadequate when….

Spiritual: What are your beliefs about God? Do you have any? Do you believe you’re being punished? Not perfect enough? Are you angry at a particular church or priest or minister? Do you remember who you are as spirit? Write it down!

Again, the idea is to till the soil of your subconscious mind to bring up all the old stuck ways of thinking and feeling. After you’ve taken the time each day doing this, go back and write down the positive things in each category. This will help neutralize any discomfort during this important process. I like to end each session by blessing everything I have no matter how I feel about it at the time. And remember, once you truly accept where you are the good news is – you don’t have to stay there!

Have fun!

Note: Please check my other posts as I have an entire Abundant Living Series! If you’d like personal help I invite you to check out my web site: http://www.debibousheyhypnosis.com

 

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I meditate just about every day. I have been since 1978. I also teach others how to quiet their mind and sit still. Science is finding proof and validating the benefits of meditation: it relieves stress, lowers blood pressure, promotes better sleep, encourages a sense of overall well-being, to name a few. But there comes a time when we still need to get up out of the chair or off the floor and deal with life. This is when the benefits of meditation are put into practical, daily use. The key is to bring the calmness of mind and emotions with you, wherever you go.Meditation-leaf

But what happens if we get too comfortable in our stillness? Can stillness actually turn into stagnation? I believe it can. Let me explain myself.

I am a small business owner. My business is called Healed Heart Hypnosis. Using hypnosis and other metaphysical, mind-science techniques I help people end unwanted habits and patterns of behavior, release past time emotional trauma and create an action plan to achieve their goals and dreams. As a small business owner it’s up to me to find the clients who need my help. I use the same manifestation techniques to help energize my practice that I teach my students and clients. I believe in the concept; where you put your attention, energy follows.

This means, through-out the day I am always thinking about my hypnosis practice. I am visualizing working with clients and having students in my classes. I am picturing and feeling my phone ringing or receiving emails or PayPal notices that my recordings have been purchased. I’m visualizing all this from a mind-set of gratitude as if everything has already happened, not with an attitude of ‘oh please let this work.’ See the difference? I practice these exercises while washing the dishes, cleaning the house, even when riding on the back of my husbands motorcycle. And I usually will always be contacted within the day by a potential new client or student.

With that said, I STILL need to implement physical activity. I work on my web site, send out mailers, write a blog, add content to my Google+ pages and other social network avenues – all the while, visualizing people contacting me. I know how easy it is to fall into the comfort zone of being self-employed, I see it all the time. And this is where I see stillness turning into stagnation. Lots of people get stuck in the meditating, metaphysical mind-set that the Universe will provide if ‘I just stay quiet and visualize all day.’. Yes, the Universe will provide, but there’s another saying; God helps those who help themselves.

You’ve got to be enthused to energize your business daily. Do something to keep the energy of your business in present time.

When was the last time you made a change on your web pages? When people go to your site and see the same thing over and over, or the date hasn’t been updated in six months to a year, they’re going to think you’re not in business anymore. Do something!

When was the last time you created a ‘Monthly Special’ or ‘Call to Action’? Do something!

This can also be applied to your business called LIFE! Are you stuck in a rut? Have you carved a groove into the zone of comfort and can’t seem to find a way out? Here’s a quick little exercise you can do.

Create three main goals for yourself. This can be three main goals for your business. Three main goals for finances. Three main goals for your lifestyle. Three main goals for your relationship space. You get the idea.

Ask yourself, how will my life be different once I achieve these goals? What will I be doing?

Now, what are the blocks you find yourself thinking about? I need an action plan. I don’t know where to find clients. I have to lose weight. I don’t have the money to do what I want to attract money. (That’s always a fun twist!)

These issues, blocks, beliefs are keeping you in that comfort zone of stagnation! It’s easier to stay where you are and dream than to get up and do something about it. I know, I’ve been there! So my challenge to you, is to – do something! Every day, do something to bring your business, your practice, your life onto a new level of existence. Don’t worry about the steps it will take to get there, just start.

If you are stuck and need guidance, I am happy to help you! If you’re not in the Bay Area I offer sessions via Skype, Facetime and phone. Hypnosis is the easiest way to access your subconscious mind to release those old patterns and habits so you can create new, healthy changes! Release the fear! Release the stagnation! When you do, your times of stillness will be that much more meaningful.

And no worries if you don’t want to work with me, I encourage you to seek out a hypnotist in your area. I believe the Universe brings everyone together who are meant to work with each other!

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Blessings to all who wander by to read this. I’ll return to my stillness now!

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You have the power and the ability to make this year your best one yet. That’s right, and wishing and hoping has nothing to do with it!

It’s not about New Years Resolutions. It’s not about creating goals. It’s not about what you wish and hope will happen. It’s about making a decision and keeping your mind focused on the positive once that decision has been made! What kind of decision you ask? How about deciding to stay more positive in the face of adversity? How about dedicating a few minutes every day for quiet, inner reflection? How about deciding to cancel out the negative chatter before you think those thoughts too long? How about finding five things each day that you’re thankful for? How about doing service work someplace once a month? Decide to do these steps and you will have created your best year yet. The rest of what you want to manifest will easily follow.

Are goals important? Yes! Why? Because you need to have a picture to focus on. Remember, the Universe is a bountiful, gracious, 360º Giver. But it needs a form in which to pour itself into. Imagine a pitcher full of clear refreshing water. You are very thirsty. Won’t that water taste great? The Universe wants to give you this water. But if you don’t have a glass, where will the water go? The same is true with goals. You need to have a clear picture with what you want. “I want to be happy” isn’t a clear picture, there’s no place to pour that water. “I will walk for twenty minutes every morning and I will be happy” is a picture.

The next step is to take some time, each day, to imagine yourself walking those twenty minutes every morning. Really get into it. Imagine you can smell the smells, feel the morning air, hear the sounds and FEEL the happiness! Then, let it go! You’ve just sent your order to the Universe. You’ve wrapped that order with images and feelings (positive emotions). Now the Universe has a form to pour its life-giving energy into. Take time each day to energize this goal, this mock-up, and sooner than you think you’ll find yourself walking for twenty minutes every morning without any effort at all.

How would this apply to a long-term goal? Let’s pretend you want to buy a new car. You don’t know how this will happen, you just know you want a new car. Start looking in magazines for the type of car you want. Cut out pictures and put them on a board that you can see every day. Visit some car dealerships and go on test drives. Get the feeling of this new car. Don’t worry about the when and how it will manifest.

Each day, spend time imagining you have that new car, just like your morning walk exercise. Imagine you’re driving it, feel the excitement, the happiness etc. Then….let it go! Once again, you’ve just sent a powerful picture to the Universe of what you want to bring into your life.

Law of Assumption: Here’s the missing ingredient to the Law of Attraction. Once you’ve taken the time to do the mental work of picturing and feeling what you want, get up and ACT as if you already have it! Pretend your present car is that brand new one. Pretend you have it parked in the driveway or on the street. Don’t allow the thoughts of doubt to creep in. (If you have not yet read and worked with my previous posts on how to let go of the old patterns, I encourage you to do so!) Keep your mind focused on the decision that you made. Then trust that the Universal Giver will honor those thoughts when the timing is best.

Testimony: This is how I got my new car. When I resigned from my church I had to return the company car. That summer I was driving my daughter around in her car because she had knee surgery and couldn’t drive. As I was driving her car I kept wondering what my new car would be. As I was driving her car I kept imagining it was my new car. I did this every time I was driving her car. Less than two months after returning to Berkeley my husband found a car he wanted me to look at: it was the exact car my daughter had; same brand, same make, same everything, just the color was different.

Testimony #2: My husband decided he wanted a new car. I told him to go for it, the Universe would provide. Once he decided to buy the car, I received many new clients and students – the same day he made the decision. See?

You can use this technique to manifest anything: A new place to live, a new office, a relationship, better health. Get a clear picture of what you want. Picture and feel what it’s like to have it, then live each day as if it’s already yours!

Is there work involved? Yes, but if you’ve been working with these posts you’ll discover it isn’t work at all. It’s an exciting journey as you discover your power and ability to create your future starting now!

Blessings to all and Happy New Year!

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Santa-listBefore I share the next exercise, here’s a quick review of the exercises I’ve offered so far on our quest for living the abundant life.

We started with the Purge List: Writing down all the hurts, resentments and misgivings, those complaints and pet peeves you’ve been carrying around with you for so long. This began the process of stirring up and purging negativity from your subconscious mind.

Next I posted the Forgiveness Exercise video. This helped you release the past-time pain pictures so you could start healing your emotional body.

After that we focused on all the different areas of life where we had uncomfortable feelings. The categories for this were Physical, Emotional, Mental, Financial and Spiritual. The idea is that when we admit we have uncomfortable thoughts and feelings towards people, places and conditions in our life, we have let the light shine on those dark corners and the situations no longer have power over us. This work was done while listening to Mary Poppins singing her happy tune, ‘Just A Spoonful Of Sugar’! The exercise was completed by counting your blessings for all the positive things you are thankful for in your life today. This started to flip the polarity in your subconscious mind and re-frame your mind to focus on the positive which helped set the tone for a grateful Thanksgiving.

New Exercise: Your Wish List!

We’re still in the cleansing process but starting to put attention on what we want to manifest for the new year. Get your paper and pen ready. For those of you who grew-up celebrating Christmas with Santa Claus, this is akin to the letters we’d write to him each year, asking to leave all those fabulous toys under the Christmas Tree. There’s a great prosperity lesson within those letters to Santa that I’ll share in another post!

Step 1:
Write down everything you want to bring in to your life. The small and the big, the medium to the ginormous! Don’t worry about how you’ll be able to manifest each item. Take some time and focus on what you’d really like to have. Be sure to include good health on your wish list!

Step 2:
Get your mind quiet. Go back over the list and write down next to each item all the reasons why you can’t have those things. “I don’t have enough money, I don’t have enough time, I don’t have the space…” You get the idea! What you’re doing is shedding light on the blocks in your subconscious mind. These blocks have turned into beliefs. I bet you really do believe those reasons that dictate why you can’t manifest something! A belief is something we consistently think, picture and feel about ourselves and the world around us. It’s time to change your belief system, don’t you agree?

Step 3:
After you’ve completed Step 2, take a little break, then get your mind quiet again. Go back over your wish list and with each item ask the question, ‘who does not want me to have this?’ Don’t try to think of the answer. From the quiet stillness simply let a name come into your awareness. Why is this step important? Because quite often we get stuck in life based on how other people want us to be. People get comfortable when they have access to us, be it emotionally, physically – even spiritually. When we change our vibration by creating positive change in our life, those individuals get bumped out of their comfort zone and have to adjust. Another reason someone may appear next to an item on your wish list is because they’re in competition with you. If they can’t have something they certainly don’t want you to have it! This doesn’t mean these individuals are bad people. You’re simply beginning to discern energy in your space. There’s an old saying; misery not only loves company, it seriously demands it! Let yourself have fun with this process.

Step 4:
Now you’re going to burn everything you’ve written! Your Wish List with the reasons you can’t have those things and the names of the people who don’t want you to have them. That’s right! Get a big bowl or metal container and burn the paper. Watch the flames. Fire is a very powerful cleansing symbol for your subconscious mind. This action represents you releasing the old beliefs and purging your subconscious mind, clearing the way to begin planting the new seed ideas you want to be experiencing in 2015.

tombstoneAdded Bonus Exercise:
If you REALLY want to have some fun, write these words on separate pieces of paper: Can’t. Won’t. Shouldn’t. Impossible. Fear. Now go outside and have a funeral for those words. Bury them in the ground. Make the decision those words and the beliefs that are attached to them are dead to you. Say your good-byes and get rid of them! Anytime you find yourself thinking those dead words you will remember that you buried them and you’ll flip your mind in that instant, back to the positive way of thinking!

After the Winter Solstice on December 21st I’ll begin posting the exercises for manifesting. The energy flips on the Solstice, the purging season is complete and we focus on the Light and new awareness! Until then, keep up the good work of letting go!

Love & Blessings to all who wander by to read this post!

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As we move into this Holiday Season, I invite you to take a moment and reflect on everything you are truly thankful for in life. Too often days are spent with unconscious complaining about the smallest things; no place to park, being stuck in traffic or waiting too long in the check-out line at the grocery store. But when you think about it, these are the complaints of a very prosperous nation. Are these really problems? I don’t believe so. Annoyances at most, but not real problems.

I was blessed to spend Thanksgiving day with a friend who hosted a dinner for a group of men recently paroled from prison. For several, this was their first ‘free’ Thanksgiving in more than 21 years. These individuals became certified alcohol drug counselors while incarcerated who are now counselors at a recovery treatment program in the Bay Area. As we went around the table saying what we were thankful for, I was humbled by their positive attitude and true gratitude for life. It confirmed for me, once more, that I really have no problems in my life. Challenges, yes. Annoyances, of course. But problems? Not at all! What about you?

When you give thanks for all the positive things in your life, you are energizing your life with positive energy. I remember saying this on a live, call-in radio show I used to host many years ago. A man called-in saying he liked what I said but he really had nothing positive to focus on. He lost his family in a divorce, he lost his job in the dot-com-bomb and was living in his car, homeless.

I simply pointed out the obvious things: He had ears with which to listen to the radio show, he had a mouth to speak his opinion, his body was healthy and he had a car to sleep in, not to mention whatever phone he was using to call the show. Start where you are, I told him and the ripples would begin to expand. He actually started to laugh. He had a change in perspective.

In order to live the abundant lifestyle it’s important to bless and accept exactly where you are in the moment, not where you want to be. Once you allow yourself to be happy where you’re at, you’ll recognize you don’t have to stay there and changes will begin to take place.

Each day, give thanks for a minimum of five things in your life. I’d prefer you count off ten or twenty things each day, but we’ll start with small steps. Do this daily and your energy will increase, you’ll start thinking happier thoughts and you’ll start feeling better. Remember, where you put your attention, energy follows. Put your attention on the good and more good will be added to you.

Now here’s a tease for my next post as we move into the exercises for manifesting your goals and dreams: Take time each day to give thanks for the things you want that haven’t manifested in your life yet. Give thanks as if you already have them!

Till next time, peace and blessings to all who wander by to read this post!

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