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Have you been writing your Purge List? Keep at it!

I created this Forgiveness Exercise video a while ago. I encourage you to work with this every day. You’ll be amazed how you will be able to clear your subconscious mind of the imprints and uncomfortable emotions you’ve been carrying for so long. Remember, you deserve to live the life you were born to live!

Please feel free to ask any questions you may have from these posts.

Love & Blessings,

Debi

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I was asked that question by a new client the other day. My first thought were these words by the Rolling Stones; you can’t always get what you want, but if you try sometime, you just might find, that you gme cape codet what you need!

No, I didn’t break into song when she asked me the question, but it IS a good question, right? Does the Law of Attraction really work?

The short answer is – yes! The Law of Attraction truly works. In fact, it is at work every day in your life. It always has been, and always will be. This doesn’t mean that you’ll always get what you want! The Law of Attraction is based upon the thoughts you think. You think a thought and you’ve just created a thought-form. This thought-form has a life of its own based upon the quality and intensity of life you breathed into it. What gives your thoughts life? Your emotions! Think about it:

Let’s say every Monday you get out of bed thinking ‘Oh crud, it’s Monday. I hate Monday’s. Monday’s NEVER go well for me. I hate my commute, I don’t want to go back to work . . .’ you get the idea, yes? So you’ve been thinking those thoughts every Monday for quite a long time and my guess is that those thoughts are not filled with warm, fuzzy happy feelings. Nope, they are probably filled with emotions like boredom, frustration, perhaps even anger. Now you have Monday thought-forms energized with negative emotions buzzing around the atmosphere. You’ve sent those little guys out to do your bidding. What happens next? Maybe a parking ticket, a traffic jam, an angry boss or co-worker, you name it. And then you can say ‘You see? I TOLD you Mondays never went well for me and this is the proof!’ And Voila! The Law of Attraction has worked again!

The key is to learn how to stay focused on what you WANT to experience, regardless of what you are going through in the moment. And although this sounds simple – it does take practice and perseverance to retrain your brain!

What? You’ve been applying this concept to attract more money and you’re still broke?

What? You’ve been working really hard and have spent thousands of dollars going from class to class, group to group, coach to coach, teacher to teacher who all promise to help you bring that perfect mate into your life – and you’re still single?

Yes, the principles work. But every person is a unique individual with a pre-programmed subconscious mind, including yourself! Your subconscious mind might be operating on a belief system that doesn’t allow you to truly buy-in to the concept that you can have a healthy relationship, a healthy bank account or what have you. Your subconscious mind might believe it’s doing a fabulous job protecting you from getting hurt, so keeps creating situations that will block what you want from manifesting into your life.

This is the reason hypnosis is so important and such a valuable, powerful modality to get the Law of Attraction working in the positive for your life goals and dreams. With the proper facilitation you can release the old programs that haven’t been working for you. You can let go of the blocks and all the uncomfortable feelings that go with them. Once you’ve done that, you can then start picturing and feeling what you want to bring into your life. You’ll be amazed how much faster the process will be!

We’ve just entered the Autumn Season. My next blog entry will explain why this is the best time of year to start letting go of everything you no longer want to experience in your life. I’ll include some simple exercises that I’ve been using for many years that really do work – when you work them! I’ll be writing this within the next day or two. If you want to be prepared, I invite you to start making a list of all the situations you no longer want to experience. Let me – help you – make this the best time of your life so far!

Until then, love and blessings to all who wander by to read this post!

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ImageIf all your unspoken thoughts had been written down this year, what do you think the main theme or quality of these thoughts would be? Were most of your days in 2013 spent rejoicing and giving thanks for everything in your life? Did you start and end each day with a prayer of gratitude? Did you take the time to find at least one positive event in each of the 365 days? If not, why not?

The thoughts we think, backed by the emotional intensities of those thoughts are what propels us into the future. The truth is, we are creating our future in every moment based on the thoughts we are thinking. Yikes!

If you yearn to create positive change for 2014 I encourage you to learn how to re-frame your mind. There’s many simple, effective exercises you can do that will help you catch those negative thoughts before they take control.

1. Keep a complaint journal. Every time, and I do mean every time, you find yourself complaining, write it down! Write down the complaint, the time of day, where you are and who you are with at that moment. Then, write down something positive about that same situation. You’ll be surprised how many entries you have after one week. I did this many years ago and was shocked to see how much I complained without realizing it! I was more surprised a month or so later when I recognized I had stopped complaining! I felt better. I was happier. I smiled more. And all I did was adjust my attitude!

What’s the significance of writing down the people you’re with when logging the complaints? This is an interesting part of the exercise to learn how other people may effect your mood and thoughts. It’s called ‘matching energy’. When you’re with people who complain or have a negative attitude you may find yourself acting the same way. And do you think these people want you to start being more positive? Heck no! You’ll ruin their joy! Some people actually enjoy being negative. And some people may not want you to be happy. I know a person who is enjoying a new romantic relationship after being single for many years. I watched her slowly make separations from the negative people in her life. She focused on herself. She set personal goals and met them; she lost weight, she started working out with a personal trainer, she got her finances grounded. She spent time with people who supported her in a positive way. She used hypnosis and meditation tools to work on her inner self. She’s happy. And – she stopped complaining!

2. Are you still looking in the past and playing the victim game? If yes then stop! Stop doing that right now! All you’re doing is making excuses for why you can’t be successful today. I recently heard of someone in their thirties complaining that she’s not a professional right now because of a living/work situation she was in during her teen-age years. This is called being stuck on a picture. Please don’t misunderstand me. I know many people have experienced horrible things and I’m not speaking lightly of past-time pain. But you have a choice. You can learn tools to help set you free from the victim role. You can re-frame your mind and practice positive thinking. You can let go of the painful past by admitting the hurt and resentment, then practice letting it go. You deserve so much more!

3. Write your own prescription for happiness. This may sound trite, but it’s surprisingly effective. Dedicate some quiet time for yourself. When you feel ready, create a list of things you’d really love to do. This isn’t a bucket list. These are things you’ve been thinking about for a long time that you believe can never happen or wonder how will it all work out? Don’t worry about the steps it’ll take to get there, start by writing them down! I worked with a client last year who had been unhappy for quite some time. He felt like he was stuck in a rut. He had a job but he realized it was just to pay his bills, he wasn’t happy going to work each day. Our first task was focused on re-framing his mind with work. He was able to find gratitude that he had a job and didn’t have to worry about finances. When I asked him what he’d love to do if there was nothing blocking him he started to smile. Then he started to talk. And talk. And talk. He wanted to be a spiritual teacher. During hypnosis I guided his subconscious to show him ways he could turn his passion into reality. Several months later he was offering free lectures. The free lectures blossomed into paid classes. He’s still working at his other job, but he’s found joy and passion by activating his personal prescription for happiness.

2014 is almost here. You have 365 clean sheets of paper waiting for you to express your thoughts, your intentions and goals. You can create whatever you choose, it’s only a thought away!

“Once someone asked me if I knew where God was. Yes, I replied, He’s in your ATTITUDE and when you ask Him, He will heal it!” – Rev. Wm. H. Duby

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There is no concept for ‘normal’ for most ACoA individuals. Not how a healthy family functions, not how a healthy relationship unfolds, not for what acceptable emotions and behaviors may be for any type of situation that for non-ACoA people would be obvious. This creates challenges when an ACoA person desires to move on in life and embrace change because they have no foundation on how they should be thinking, feeling or acting as they take their steps in growth.

People who have grown-up in an alcoholic home learned at a very early age that the only consistency they had was the fact that life was completely inconsistent. We became survivalists in this arena. It was always expected that the alcoholic parent would drink, we just never knew when or where it would start or what the outcome would be; would they simply pass out until the week-end was over or would the police be called to the house…..again.

When I was growing-up in the 60’s and 70’s there was still a lot of stigma and negativity towards alcoholism. My dad being an alcoholic was the biggest secret all the neighbors knew. I just didn’t know they knew, so was always walking on egg shells trying to cover the tracks. My stomach was tied in knots and I was always scared someone would see or hear my dad when he was drunk.

I only had one friend I’d invite into the house who I felt comfortable with if she knew he drank. When she moved to Europe it was three years before I invited anyone else in again. This is not ‘normal’ but for me it was my only option.

If you’ve grown-up in an alcoholic home you know how good you became at lying. It’s not like we set out with lying as our intention, but it became much easier than telling the truth. How did I get the black eye? Oh, I tripped and hit the doorknob in my bedroom. I soon had the reputation of being a klutz. Making up stories like that is not normal but again, at the time, it was my only option.

I was clueless how I was supposed to think and feel in various situations. To hide my insecurities I became the class clown. If I made people laugh I’d feel comfortable and when I got in trouble for it, at least it was because of something I did and not because of what was happening in my home. Of this one aspect of my life I had control.

It took a lot of years of inner work with myself before I was confident in expressing my feelings. I remember one night sitting in a meditation class; we had our eyes closed and our teacher was asking us questions about something and he said “raise your hand if you think this….. raise your hand if you think that…..” I would peek and see how people were answering and raise my hand accordingly. Then I got busted because he said “Debi, it can’t be both ways, which is it for you, A or B?” I was paralyzed in that moment. I was filled with fear of saying the wrong answer and fear that I’d be in trouble for it, when the reality of the situation was we were only being asked for our perspective. Again, not normal!

Hypnosis is an incredible tool to help individuals rise above their ACoA traits. Why? Because all those patterns of behavior and emotions are stored in the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind is like a computer; it will continue acting on the same program until the program is changed. This is why an adult child of an alcoholic has difficulty in learning what ‘normal’ feelings and behaviors are, because their subconscious mind is filled with the old patterns and pain from the past.

I have been working with many ACoA individuals in my hypnosis practice, helping them create a ‘new normal.’ We work on releasing the old negativity and patterns of thoughts and behavior that has been controlling them for so long. It’s like preparing a canvas to paint a picture. Once the subconscious mind has been cleansed, they start focusing in on the type of person they yearn to become, which is setting the foundation for their new normal. This takes time because getting in touch with new positive emotions with the permission to feel and express them is a whole new way of living life. But the journey is empowering and worth every step.

Love & Blessings to all who wander by to read this!

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  Meditation and hypnosis are often seen as one and the same. The truth is, they are not. Let me explain why.
Meditation is an emptying out process. It’s a time to quiet the mind and still the thoughts that run through your head all day long. To properly meditate, you need to stop thinking. However, this isn’t as easy as that may sound.

When I first started meditating, my mind was going something like this: “Okay, I’m going to sit here for thirty minutes and not think. Okay, now I’m thinking about how I’m not suppose to be thinking. Right, now I’m thinking about what to eat for dinner and that cute little dress I saw in the store window the other day.”

Sound familiar? Once we’re caught up in the thought stream of the world, it’s hard to unhook. The thought stream is from the analytical part of our mind, the conscious mind. We can stay caught-up in thoughts for a very long time. Often, those thoughts are not even our own!
Why meditate? Science has proven that meditation helps lower blood pressure, release stress and gives you an overall feeling of peace and well-being. Even with the high stress and tension people experience in their fast paced daily lives, meditation helps to slow things down and puts life in a different perspective. The problems are still there, but now there is a different way to handle the situations.

Spiritually, we meditate to re-connect ourselves to our Source. Whatever name label you have for “God”, meditation is a time of quiet inner-reflection, to become united with the God of your heart. Prayer is when you talk to God, meditation is when you get quiet and allow God to talk to you. It’s difficult to hear with all that babble going on!

If meditation is an emptying out process, what are we releasing? The thoughts that have you believing there is something wrong with you. The thinking you entertain that says you are not already connected with God, or that you have to be good and perfect to be accepted by your Creator. In short – the hypnotic state you’ve been in that has you believing you are not okay, just the way you are.

Hypnosis is a natural state of mind we go into everyday. Getting caught up in a good book or movie, studying for an exam and losing track of time are simple examples of being in hypnosis. To go into hypnosis and enter into the subconscious mind, you must by-pass the critical factor of the conscious mind – the thought stream!

This can be done quickly, easily and effectively. One does not need to be relaxed to go into trance, relaxation is a by-product of having been in hypnosis. Why? Because you have relaxed the body and mind together, which allows the nervous system to flush out all the pent-up stress and tensions. This is why one hour of hypnosis is equal to eight hours of sleep; the mind is guided into slowing down the brainwaves, simply by following the instructions given by the facilitator. When the mind relaxes, it is able to let go.

Why isn’t hypnosis the same as meditation? When you are being guided through a creative visualization session by someone, it may be called meditation, but you are establishing selective thinking based upon what the person is saying. Spiritually, we are in hypnosis all the time. People are “asleep” to who they are as a spirit, living in a body. They are in a trance state of believing to be the body/personality, with all the issues and problems causing the stress and tensions.

Hypnosis is a wonderful, powerful tool to locate the reasons as to why you are stuck believing certain things, such as those mentioned above. Once you find the source of the problem, you can let it go! Once you let it go, your mind has been emptied out from that quality of thinking.

This is why hypnosis is a great way to enhance meditation. You can use the scientific approach of hypnosis to enter into your subconscious mind. Once in trance, you can release the old thinking patterns. Once you’ve done that and your mind is clear, you can move into a quiet state of meditation. You’ve reconnected with yourself as spirit. I see this in people all the time; they’ve been guided through a trance/hypnosis session and when it’s over, they are incredibly quiet – no thoughts, just peace and quiet.

That’s the meditative state. The door to get there? Hypnosis. It’s the fastest way to hop out of the thought stream. But hypnosis will not take you through that door. Hypnosis will show you why things are the way they are, and how things can be if you choose to alter your thinking. Once you’ve done that, now meditate. This is the only way to awaken to your higher good, and all healing is awakening to who we are, isn’t it? Yes it is!

Love & Blessings to all who wander by to read this

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