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cracked eggBoth actually. When people call me asking if hypnosis will help their issue, they are usually thinking in terms of getting fixed quick; they want the presenting problem to go away as fast as it can. Initially, they may not be interested in investing lots of time or money into getting help because they’ve already been down that road with other therapies.

What I explain to people is this: Hypnosis is a great modality to end unhealthy, unwanted habits and a wonderful tool for behavior modification. A client walks in as a smoker and leaves a non-smoker. The client with fears or phobias ends the session able to get on the plane, drive over a bridge or hike in the woods where there might be a snake or spider. In this aspect, hypnosis is a quick fix and for many, the only fix they will need.

However, one of the questions I ask my potential new client is how long they have been indulging in the habit they no longer want, or living with the fear that has kept them locked down? If we looked at the presenting problem as an egg, this would be the outer shell. Inside that shell is the source of life to their problems: Low self-esteem, lack of confidence, being anĀ  abuse or rape victim, fear, or guilt. The habit is how they have been coping with the real issue. The habit has been the band-aide to get them through the day. This is when hypnosis should be used as a longer process.

Your subconscious mind is the storehouse of memory for all your life experiences, both good and bad. At some point in time, usually when you were young, something happened to you that went into your subconscious mind and became the initial imprint for the problem you are dealing with today. Why are you self-conscious? What is the cause for such low self-esteem? What was the start of the anger issues? Only by going into your subconscious mind, via hypnosis, can the initial imprint be targeted and released.

So I tell the new client, hypnosis is a process. You can leave my office after one visit feeling great and ready to tackle the immediate challenge at hand, but realize you didn’t just wake-up one day with low self-esteem, anger issues or poverty consciousness. This way of thinking, feeling and behaving took time to become the foundation for who you believe yourself to be. And if you really want to create positive, permanent change in your life, I suggest you commit to a hypnosis program. And although a program will involve four or more sessions, it won’t be a ‘this-will-never-end-cycle’ of constantly going over the same situations in your mind again and again, as in classical talk therapy.

You’ll be able to release the source of the problems and all other contributing factors and then replenish your subconscious mind with the new thoughts, feelings and actions of how you want to be living your life. You’ll learn how to retrain your brain and change your perspective on how you choose to respond to the world around you.

Potential new clients get pretty excited when they learn they can take back control over their life and become the person they’ve always yearned to be in just a few months and not years invested in therapy. And of course, they always have a choice. That’s what freedom is all about.

So which is it for you, a quick fix or longer process? Find a hypnotist in your area. Check out my hypnosis programs on this blog site. Create the life you want!

Blessings to all who wander by to read this post. Thank you for sharing this with your friends!

 

 

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ImageIf all your unspoken thoughts had been written down this year, what do you think the main theme or quality of these thoughts would be? Were most of your days in 2013 spent rejoicing and giving thanks for everything in your life? Did you start and end each day with a prayer of gratitude? Did you take the time to find at least one positive event in each of the 365 days? If not, why not?

The thoughts we think, backed by the emotional intensities of those thoughts are what propels us into the future. The truth is, we are creating our future in every moment based on the thoughts we are thinking. Yikes!

If you yearn to create positive change for 2014 I encourage you to learn how to re-frame your mind. There’s many simple, effective exercises you can do that will help you catch those negative thoughts before they take control.

1. Keep a complaint journal. Every time, and I do mean every time, you find yourself complaining, write it down! Write down the complaint, the time of day, where you are and who you are with at that moment. Then, write down something positive about that same situation. You’ll be surprised how many entries you have after one week. I did this many years ago and was shocked to see how much I complained without realizing it! I was more surprised a month or so later when I recognized I had stopped complaining! I felt better. I was happier. I smiled more. And all I did was adjust my attitude!

What’s the significance of writing down the people you’re with when logging the complaints? This is an interesting part of the exercise to learn how other people may effect your mood and thoughts. It’s called ‘matching energy’. When you’re with people who complain or have a negative attitude you may find yourself acting the same way. And do you think these people want you to start being more positive? Heck no! You’ll ruin their joy! Some people actually enjoy being negative. And some people may not want you to be happy. I know a person who is enjoying a new romantic relationship after being single for many years. I watched her slowly make separations from the negative people in her life. She focused on herself. She set personal goals and met them; she lost weight, she started working out with a personal trainer, she got her finances grounded. She spent time with people who supported her in a positive way. She used hypnosis and meditation tools to work on her inner self. She’s happy. And – she stopped complaining!

2. Are you still looking in the past and playing the victim game? If yes then stop! Stop doing that right now! All you’re doing is making excuses for why you can’t be successful today. I recently heard of someone in their thirties complaining that she’s not a professional right now because of a living/work situation she was in during her teen-age years. This is called being stuck on a picture. Please don’t misunderstand me. I know many people have experienced horrible things and I’m not speaking lightly of past-time pain. But you have a choice. You can learn tools to help set you free from the victim role. You can re-frame your mind and practice positive thinking. You can let go of the painful past by admitting the hurt and resentment, then practice letting it go. You deserve so much more!

3. Write your own prescription for happiness. This may sound trite, but it’s surprisingly effective. Dedicate some quiet time for yourself. When you feel ready, create a list of things you’d really love to do. This isn’t a bucket list. These are things you’ve been thinking about for a long time that you believe can never happen or wonder how will it all work out? Don’t worry about the steps it’ll take to get there, start by writing them down! I worked with a client last year who had been unhappy for quite some time. He felt like he was stuck in a rut. He had a job but he realized it was just to pay his bills, he wasn’t happy going to work each day. Our first task was focused on re-framing his mind with work. He was able to find gratitude that he had a job and didn’t have to worry about finances. When I asked him what he’d love to do if there was nothing blocking him he started to smile. Then he started to talk. And talk. And talk. He wanted to be a spiritual teacher. During hypnosis I guided his subconscious to show him ways he could turn his passion into reality. Several months later he was offering free lectures. The free lectures blossomed into paid classes. He’s still working at his other job, but he’s found joy and passion by activating his personal prescription for happiness.

2014 is almost here. You have 365 clean sheets of paper waiting for you to express your thoughts, your intentions and goals. You can create whatever you choose, it’s only a thought away!

“Once someone asked me if I knew where God was. Yes, I replied, He’s in your ATTITUDE and when you ask Him, He will heal it!” – Rev. Wm. H. Duby

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