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I was asked that question by a new client the other day. My first thought were these words by the Rolling Stones; you can’t always get what you want, but if you try sometime, you just might find, that you gme cape codet what you need!

No, I didn’t break into song when she asked me the question, but it IS a good question, right? Does the Law of Attraction really work?

The short answer is – yes! The Law of Attraction truly works. In fact, it is at work every day in your life. It always has been, and always will be. This doesn’t mean that you’ll always get what you want! The Law of Attraction is based upon the thoughts you think. You think a thought and you’ve just created a thought-form. This thought-form has a life of its own based upon the quality and intensity of life you breathed into it. What gives your thoughts life? Your emotions! Think about it:

Let’s say every Monday you get out of bed thinking ‘Oh crud, it’s Monday. I hate Monday’s. Monday’s NEVER go well for me. I hate my commute, I don’t want to go back to work . . .’ you get the idea, yes? So you’ve been thinking those thoughts every Monday for quite a long time and my guess is that those thoughts are not filled with warm, fuzzy happy feelings. Nope, they are probably filled with emotions like boredom, frustration, perhaps even anger. Now you have Monday thought-forms energized with negative emotions buzzing around the atmosphere. You’ve sent those little guys out to do your bidding. What happens next? Maybe a parking ticket, a traffic jam, an angry boss or co-worker, you name it. And then you can say ‘You see? I TOLD you Mondays never went well for me and this is the proof!’ And Voila! The Law of Attraction has worked again!

The key is to learn how to stay focused on what you WANT to experience, regardless of what you are going through in the moment. And although this sounds simple – it does take practice and perseverance to retrain your brain!

What? You’ve been applying this concept to attract more money and you’re still broke?

What? You’ve been working really hard and have spent thousands of dollars going from class to class, group to group, coach to coach, teacher to teacher who all promise to help you bring that perfect mate into your life – and you’re still single?

Yes, the principles work. But every person is a unique individual with a pre-programmed subconscious mind, including yourself! Your subconscious mind might be operating on a belief system that doesn’t allow you to truly buy-in to the concept that you can have a healthy relationship, a healthy bank account or what have you. Your subconscious mind might believe it’s doing a fabulous job protecting you from getting hurt, so keeps creating situations that will block what you want from manifesting into your life.

This is the reason hypnosis is so important and such a valuable, powerful modality to get the Law of Attraction working in the positive for your life goals and dreams. With the proper facilitation you can release the old programs that haven’t been working for you. You can let go of the blocks and all the uncomfortable feelings that go with them. Once you’ve done that, you can then start picturing and feeling what you want to bring into your life. You’ll be amazed how much faster the process will be!

We’ve just entered the Autumn Season. My next blog entry will explain why this is the best time of year to start letting go of everything you no longer want to experience in your life. I’ll include some simple exercises that I’ve been using for many years that really do work – when you work them! I’ll be writing this within the next day or two. If you want to be prepared, I invite you to start making a list of all the situations you no longer want to experience. Let me – help you – make this the best time of your life so far!

Until then, love and blessings to all who wander by to read this post!

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I’ve been meditating on forgiveness. I deeply believe it is important to practice forgiving, letting go and moving forward in life. This is something I have been applying in my daily life for many years. A few months ago I was accused of holding on to old resentments and not forgiving certain people from my past. According to these individuals, from their perspective, had I truly forgiven I’d be open to going out to dinner with and/or inviting these people into my home. The ones accusing me became quite passionate, if not downright angry at my behavior. I was accused of being willing to help drug addicts and alcoholics but not my old friends.

I was quite surprised at this outburst. I remember my teacher saying that when we speak we are usually talking about ourselves first, if we haven’t taken the time to clear consciousness. Or, if the shoe fits wear it, if it doesn’t kick it off!

So what exactly does it mean to forgive?

The definition of forgive from the dictionary is: stop feeling angry or resentful toward someone for an offense, flaw or mistake.

So forgive is a verb. It is something we need to take action on, vs. something we just think about.

I recently had a conversation with an individual who is in the process of filing for a divorce after forty years of marriage. He is filled with lots of anger and has been resenting people and situations for more than forty years! That’s a long time of holding a grudge and keeping things internalized. So I wasn’t too surprised when he told me he might have liver problems.

From the book Heal Your Body, Louise L. Hay says liver problems stem from the thinking/emotional process of chronic complaining, justifying fault-finding to deceive yourself. Feeling bad.

Whoa! You mean the more we think about something with lots of negative emotions we can create symptoms of illness in our body? That’s right! You’ve heard the saying you are what you eat? Well even truer, we are what we think!

I suggested to my friend that he might want to start thinking positive thoughts and getting some positive feelings flowing through his body. His answer? I don’t have anything positive in my life. Wow! I could think of ten in that moment – and it wasn’t even my life!

Forgiveness is not for the other person. Forgiveness is for our self.

Why? Because we are the ones left walking around feeling crappy. Think about a situation when somebody really made you mad.  Perhaps you kept dwelling on the issue, talking about it to your friends. And yes, maybe at the time it was a bad thing that happened to you. Now fast forward to the present. Are you still complaining about the same thing? That person did it to me! That person ruined my life, screwed me over, or that person_________________, you fill in the blank!

That person is probably happy and enjoying life. They most likely have no idea you are still upset. And guess what? You’re the one holding the bag of cruddy feelings, not them! You’re the one making yourself sick based on the thoughts and emotions constantly running through your space.

Does forgiveness mean I have to be a doormat? No! But when you can run forgiveness through your body towards someone you are releasing yourself from the karmic debt between the two of you. You are actually setting yourself free. And just because you forgive someone doesn’t mean you have to hang out with him or her. I’ve forgiven many people in my life that I now choose to love from a distance! Let me share an experience.

Approximately eleven years ago I was going through a hellacious life challenge that involved the father of my kids, the court system and my right to raise my daughters as I deemed best and that included my right to home school. The things being said about me were hurtful, ugly lies. It was terrible. I became very angry and I wanted to find revenge. Then I had a life changing experience.

My pastor at the time (now deceased) facilitated a spiritual hypnosis session with me. I honestly don’t recall the words or suggestions he gave, all I remember is my entire body was filled with light. I had a burning sensation start at the top of my head that ran all the way down to my feet. I was enveloped by an incredible sense of awe, peace and love. The only words I’ve ever been able to use that come close to describing what this was like is that I was filled with the Holy Spirit.

I saw all my antagonists standing before me and all I could do was love and forgive them. And at first this kind of pissed me off! I wanted to hold on to the hate and resentments! But that became more painful, it was easier to let go and allow love to flow. I emerged from trance knowing I had changed. And to this day, I’ve never been able to resent anyone for a long time. Do I get angry if treated unfairly? Of course I do! But even when I’ve tried to run hatred through me – and yes – I’ve tried, I can’t do it, it’s just not there. Do I choose to hang out with these people? No, but I can still forgive them. I can also forgive myself for allowing the situation to happen. This sets me free to move forward in my life.

The other day I drove an hour to bring food to my daughters’ dad because he wasn’t feeling well. Eleven years ago I never would have dreamed this would be possible. And I was checking my space to see if I had any remaining resentments inside and realized I was clear. This made me happy because not only was I free – he was too. Mistakes were made by both of us but we had each moved on.

What about you? Are there people you are still resenting? Bad things happen but you owe it to yourself to forgive, let go of the painful past, and move forward in life.

If you truly desire to let go and embrace positive change find someone who can help you with the process. I believe using hypnosis is the most powerful approach because you’ll be in your subconscious mind where all the old uncomfortable feelings are stored. From hypnosis you can release and let go and focus on how you want to be feeling. You can strengthen your mental muscles to think more positively. You deserve to be happy!

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