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angry girl

I remember thinking, when I first embarked upon my spiritual journey way back in the day, that I’d never be angry again. Then when I’d find myself being angry I assumed I came off my lofty perch and succumbed to a weakness, or had found a fault in my aspirations for perfection. Today I laugh at those assumptions and can assure you, that after thirty plus years of spirituality seeking, learning, teaching and practicing . . . I still have days when I’m angry. And sometimes I even enjoy this powerful emotion!

It’s a misconceived notion to think spiritually minded people don’t get angry. When Jesus went into the Temple and flipped over the tables and made a mess of things, I don’t believe he did so in a quiet, apologetic way. No, I believe he made some noise when he upturned those tables because he didn’t like the way the money changers were ripping people off as they exchanged their currencies to offer donations to the Temple. He was channeling the emotion of anger to make a point. Did he stay angry? No, he went off to meditate afterwards to clear his space.

You have a body, but you are not that body. Likewise you have emotions, but you are not those emotions. You are spirit. Your body is your house. The emotions are the language the body uses to let you know what kind of energy is moving through your environment. Anger is one of those emotions. The key is to learn how to discern whether the emotions you are experiencing are yours, or someone else you may be ‘matching’. For example, have you ever gone to work in a great mood, singing a tune, feeling high on life, only to start feeling crabby a few hours later? Now you’re thinking about how you hate your job or how your roommate or spouse didn’t put the cap on the toothpaste in the morning and boy, don’t they know how that really pisses you off?

But if you were able to step out of that moment and look around you, maybe you’d see a co-worker stewing at their desk with their face all scrunched with a clear look of agitation. Then you’d recognize it was their anger you were experiencing. It was their energy moving through the office, with their angry thoughts and feelings that went into your aura. Only when it reached your space you translated it into your thoughts and feelings. This is called matching energy. In my next post I’ll address what to do about that, but for now, let’s move on with the anger!

When used correctly, anger is a very powerful tool. When used incorrectly, it becomes a weapon. What’s the difference?

Anger as a weapon: Too many times, when people are angry, they spew the anger all about them at whoever, whatever is in their path. This is called ‘destroying outside your space’. Have you ever gotten into an argument because you were mad, said words you couldn’t take back and ruined a friendship or relationship? That’s an example of destroying outside your space. Or you get so pissed you pick things up and smash them to pieces? Again, another example of destroying outside your space. It feels good in the moment but you’re left picking up the rubble and trying to make amends.

Some people have no permission to express or admit they are angry and suppress the emotion deep inside them. The result is often acne, ulcers, IBS, cancer or other physical issues. Anger as a weapon has been turned on themselves.

Anger as a tool: The truth, is that anger can be a very powerful tool for destroying, cleansing and releasing the pictures or situations that caused you to be angry in the first place. The key is to learn how to run this powerful energy IN your body, not throw it all around you. At first it burns but then it’s like the refiners fire and before you know it, you are clear. My teacher once told me, when you are owning your anger and keeping it in your space, nobody else will know that you’re angry. This is not the same as suppressing it, this is putting that motive force to work for you!

Exercise: Here’s a great exercise to help channel anger that I still use today. And I literally mean today, I just came inside from doing it! All you need are some raw eggs and a felt tip marker.

Write on the eggs the person or situation that has you angry. Write the feelings that go with the anger; frustration, sadness, fear etc. Now go outside. Hold the egg(s) in your hands and imagine all the anger going into the eggs. Really get into it! Now throw the eggs, one at a time, at a fence or on the sidewalk, driveway – anyplace where they will SMASH! When you’re done, you’ll feel better. If you have no place to do this outside you can use your bathtub or kitchen sink. Try this and see how it works.

I encourage you to start using anger as a tool. If you need more help than a raw egg can offer, hypnosis is a great modality to release those deep-rooted anger issues. But think about it, the next time you find yourself getting mad or someone is pushing your buttons you can be thinking, “I have an egg with your name on it!”

Peace to all who wander by to read this post.

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oilsLet me start by saying I am not a fanatic bible thumping oiler. I’m not writing this blog to push anything on anyone. I just want to share how I’m using essential oils in conjunction with my hypnosis practice, with lots of positive results.

My original intention for purchasing a diffuser and a bunch of oils was to make my house and office smell nice. The more I started to learn about the specific use each oil had and the more I researched about the healing properties the oils hold, the more excited I became. Now I use the oils every day, in both my home and healing center. The oils I purchase are from Young Living. After doing my own research on various companies I chose Young Living because the quality of their oils is superior than others I have purchased in the past. I found it interesting to learn that many essential oil companies either dilute the oils with other products or bottle the oils after the second or third distilling which renders the quality of the oils much weaker and not as effective. Take lavender for example. Pure 100% lavender is fabulous for treating burns and I always have a bottle in my kitchen. However, if you buy lavender that says it’s pure but has an additive in it, you could possibly make the burn worse. So my rule of thumb with anything I buy is ‘pay a bit more and get the best.’

I use essential oils in my hypnosis practice as another tool in the tool box. Before I see a client I’ll start diffusing an oil that will help alleviate the issue they are working on. I have a client who suffers from Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. Before she comes in I make sure I have a combo of lemon and peppermint diffusing in the air. Both of these oils are great for lethargy and energy loss and helps boost mental clarity. Another client has so much on her agenda that she’s always feeling scattered and has a hard time winding down. I’ll have an essential oil blend called Gathering in the diffuser when she arrives. Gathering combines galbanum, frankincense and sandalwood oils. Together they help to collect emotional and spiritual energy, helping to enhance the state of wholeness and unity. Before we start the session I dab Stress Away on her wrists and temples to assist in the relaxation process. Then I proceed with the hypnosis, helping her go to the source of when these hectic patterns of behavior were first imprinted into her subconscious mind.

I love creating an environment and holding the space for healing and positive change to occur. When people see me for spiritual guidance and deeper emotional issues I’ll often include in the session a powerful healing technique called Christ Force Healing. This involves placing my hands on the soles of their feet to help channel this powerful Universal Energy through their body. I first anoint the bottoms of their feet with frankincense oil. This is an ancient oil that helps rid anxiety, sadness and despair and is useful for visualizing and improving one’s spiritual connection and centering. I received an email from one of my clients after she received this healing and she said, “Since that session with you, a whole layer of my depression has lifted, and I don’t believe it will return.” This was four months ago and I’m happy to say she continues to be well. Please note, that as a hypnotist and oil user, I don’t treat, diagnose or cure. I simply use the oils as an aide as I guide people into their subconscious mind for self-discovery and inner change. This is called Transformational Healing.

My desire is to help people release anything that blocks them from living a life of health, wealth and abundance. I will use whatever tools I have to assist them in that process.
If you are interested in learning more about the oils I use, I invite you to look at my web site, the link is below. I have several oils on the front page I recommend and you can see the full inventory via my page. And that’s about as pushy as I’ll get! If you have any questions please contact me!

http://www.youngliving.org/hypnodebi

 

Love & Blessings to all who wander by to read this post!

 

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As we move into this Holiday Season, I invite you to take a moment and reflect on everything you are truly thankful for in life. Too often days are spent with unconscious complaining about the smallest things; no place to park, being stuck in traffic or waiting too long in the check-out line at the grocery store. But when you think about it, these are the complaints of a very prosperous nation. Are these really problems? I don’t believe so. Annoyances at most, but not real problems.

I was blessed to spend Thanksgiving day with a friend who hosted a dinner for a group of men recently paroled from prison. For several, this was their first ‘free’ Thanksgiving in more than 21 years. These individuals became certified alcohol drug counselors while incarcerated who are now counselors at a recovery treatment program in the Bay Area. As we went around the table saying what we were thankful for, I was humbled by their positive attitude and true gratitude for life. It confirmed for me, once more, that I really have no problems in my life. Challenges, yes. Annoyances, of course. But problems? Not at all! What about you?

When you give thanks for all the positive things in your life, you are energizing your life with positive energy. I remember saying this on a live, call-in radio show I used to host many years ago. A man called-in saying he liked what I said but he really had nothing positive to focus on. He lost his family in a divorce, he lost his job in the dot-com-bomb and was living in his car, homeless.

I simply pointed out the obvious things: He had ears with which to listen to the radio show, he had a mouth to speak his opinion, his body was healthy and he had a car to sleep in, not to mention whatever phone he was using to call the show. Start where you are, I told him and the ripples would begin to expand. He actually started to laugh. He had a change in perspective.

In order to live the abundant lifestyle it’s important to bless and accept exactly where you are in the moment, not where you want to be. Once you allow yourself to be happy where you’re at, you’ll recognize you don’t have to stay there and changes will begin to take place.

Each day, give thanks for a minimum of five things in your life. I’d prefer you count off ten or twenty things each day, but we’ll start with small steps. Do this daily and your energy will increase, you’ll start thinking happier thoughts and you’ll start feeling better. Remember, where you put your attention, energy follows. Put your attention on the good and more good will be added to you.

Now here’s a tease for my next post as we move into the exercises for manifesting your goals and dreams: Take time each day to give thanks for the things you want that haven’t manifested in your life yet. Give thanks as if you already have them!

Till next time, peace and blessings to all who wander by to read this post!

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We’ve just entered the autumn season. Autumn is the time for harvest and is also a time of completion.  The seeds that were planted in the spring have grown into the fruit bearing plants and are now reaching their peak of bounty.

This is the time of year when we can witness the fruits of our own mock-ups for 2014. What seed ideas did you plant for your life goals and dreams? Have you manifested what you desired? Did the same old weeds keep popping up as different situations and challenges attempting to block your goals from taking form?

Are you happy with your creations? If not, why not?

Most of the issues people have in their lives; the beliefs in struggle, lack, limitation and the non-ability to live a happy, healthy and abundant lifestyle, stem from the root cause of not knowing who they truly are as spirit. We get hypnotized into believing we are the body/personality and have fallen to sleep to our true spiritual identity.

You have a body – but you are not that body. You have thoughts – but you are not those thoughts. You have emotions – but you are not those emotions. You are spirit. Your body is your house. The quality of life you choose to live is based on the thoughts you continuously think. Your emotions are the language your body uses to let you, spirit, know what’s going on in your environment.

Autumn is the perfect time of year to awaken from spiritual slumber and regain your personal divinity as a spirit in a body. This is the perspective that will help you manifest your hearts desires! However – there’s some house cleaning that needs to be done first!

Exercise #1 – The Purge List

Get a pad of paper or a notebook.gi-list

Dedicate some quiet time each day for personal reflection.

What are the hurts and resentments you’re still carrying with you? You know them. Is there a family member or friend who mistreated you? Does that same emotion fire up when you think about this? Write it down!

Write down all the pet peeves, complaints, anger and resentments. Be honest with yourself. Nobody else will be reading this list. This is your time to get absolutely real with yourself. As you’re writing everything down ask yourself if you’re finally ready to let it all go?

These past time situations are acting as blocks preventing you from bringing new positive things into your life. And they HAVE become your pet peeves! You feed them, you nurture them, you carry them with you everywhere you go, including into your mock-up space, which is why you keep attracting the same problems and situations over and over and over again.

I encourage you to spend time each day doing this exercise. When you’re done each day, take a moment to write down the things you’re thankful for in your life right now. We always want to end on a positive note!

Do this for seven days. Next week I will post a video of a powerful exercise that will guide you into hypnosis for the final purge before we move to our next exercise! Have fun with this! I can honestly say my life keeps getting better and I continue to prosper on all levels as I work these techniques!

Love and blessings to all who wander by to read this post!

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ImageIf all your unspoken thoughts had been written down this year, what do you think the main theme or quality of these thoughts would be? Were most of your days in 2013 spent rejoicing and giving thanks for everything in your life? Did you start and end each day with a prayer of gratitude? Did you take the time to find at least one positive event in each of the 365 days? If not, why not?

The thoughts we think, backed by the emotional intensities of those thoughts are what propels us into the future. The truth is, we are creating our future in every moment based on the thoughts we are thinking. Yikes!

If you yearn to create positive change for 2014 I encourage you to learn how to re-frame your mind. There’s many simple, effective exercises you can do that will help you catch those negative thoughts before they take control.

1. Keep a complaint journal. Every time, and I do mean every time, you find yourself complaining, write it down! Write down the complaint, the time of day, where you are and who you are with at that moment. Then, write down something positive about that same situation. You’ll be surprised how many entries you have after one week. I did this many years ago and was shocked to see how much I complained without realizing it! I was more surprised a month or so later when I recognized I had stopped complaining! I felt better. I was happier. I smiled more. And all I did was adjust my attitude!

What’s the significance of writing down the people you’re with when logging the complaints? This is an interesting part of the exercise to learn how other people may effect your mood and thoughts. It’s called ‘matching energy’. When you’re with people who complain or have a negative attitude you may find yourself acting the same way. And do you think these people want you to start being more positive? Heck no! You’ll ruin their joy! Some people actually enjoy being negative. And some people may not want you to be happy. I know a person who is enjoying a new romantic relationship after being single for many years. I watched her slowly make separations from the negative people in her life. She focused on herself. She set personal goals and met them; she lost weight, she started working out with a personal trainer, she got her finances grounded. She spent time with people who supported her in a positive way. She used hypnosis and meditation tools to work on her inner self. She’s happy. And – she stopped complaining!

2. Are you still looking in the past and playing the victim game? If yes then stop! Stop doing that right now! All you’re doing is making excuses for why you can’t be successful today. I recently heard of someone in their thirties complaining that she’s not a professional right now because of a living/work situation she was in during her teen-age years. This is called being stuck on a picture. Please don’t misunderstand me. I know many people have experienced horrible things and I’m not speaking lightly of past-time pain. But you have a choice. You can learn tools to help set you free from the victim role. You can re-frame your mind and practice positive thinking. You can let go of the painful past by admitting the hurt and resentment, then practice letting it go. You deserve so much more!

3. Write your own prescription for happiness. This may sound trite, but it’s surprisingly effective. Dedicate some quiet time for yourself. When you feel ready, create a list of things you’d really love to do. This isn’t a bucket list. These are things you’ve been thinking about for a long time that you believe can never happen or wonder how will it all work out? Don’t worry about the steps it’ll take to get there, start by writing them down! I worked with a client last year who had been unhappy for quite some time. He felt like he was stuck in a rut. He had a job but he realized it was just to pay his bills, he wasn’t happy going to work each day. Our first task was focused on re-framing his mind with work. He was able to find gratitude that he had a job and didn’t have to worry about finances. When I asked him what he’d love to do if there was nothing blocking him he started to smile. Then he started to talk. And talk. And talk. He wanted to be a spiritual teacher. During hypnosis I guided his subconscious to show him ways he could turn his passion into reality. Several months later he was offering free lectures. The free lectures blossomed into paid classes. He’s still working at his other job, but he’s found joy and passion by activating his personal prescription for happiness.

2014 is almost here. You have 365 clean sheets of paper waiting for you to express your thoughts, your intentions and goals. You can create whatever you choose, it’s only a thought away!

“Once someone asked me if I knew where God was. Yes, I replied, He’s in your ATTITUDE and when you ask Him, He will heal it!” – Rev. Wm. H. Duby

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Healthy Soil 3

Healthy Soil 3 (Photo credit: NRCS SD)

The exercise I’m sharing today is an important step in the process of manifesting health, wealth and abundant living. I encourage you to give your ‘mock-up’ space the respect it deserves and you will reap the benefits of taking this extra time of preparation. It’s similar to the way farmers prepare the earth for planting. I used to watch this process every year on the farm where I grew-up. After the dormant winter months the farmers go into the fields turning over the soil. Then they’d walk the garden, picking out and throwing into a pile all the rocks that were brought up in the overturned dirt. It always amazed me how many rocks there were each year! It also explained why there are so many stone walls in New England – but that’s another story!

Tilling the soil before planting new crops is akin to tilling the soil of your subconscious mind. You want to uproot and cast aside the old, frozen stuck ways of thinking and feeling. These are the blocks, or, rocks, imbedded in your subconscious mind that create the belief thinking of lack and limitation. If you plant a new seed idea without clearing the soil, it most likely won’t sprout into what you desire. You need to clean out or destroy the old before bringing in, or creating, the new. This is the concept of creating and destroying.

Imagine you were given a bunch of money to buy a complete new wardrobe. When you get home from your shopping spree what must you do before putting away your new attire? You need to throw away the old worn clothing from the closet to make room for the new! The same is true for your subconscious mind; you need to clear out the closet of old thoughts of lack, limitation, poor health etc. before putting in the new thoughts of health, wealth and abundant living.

In my last post entry, Is It Okay To Want?,  the exercise was to write down different things you want to manifest in your life and to pay attention to the corresponding feelings around those desires. This brings us to exercise Number 2. I suggest you get a small notebook as you’ll be working with this for at least a week.

You’re going to take a walk through your life as it is, right now. I want you to write down all the uncomfortable thoughts, disappointments, feelings around every aspect of your life. This isn’t meant to be a bummer session! It’s important to acknowledge where you are in any given moment of time. In scripture it says “For nothing is secret that shall not be made manifest; neither anything hidden, that shall not be known and come to light.” Luke 8:17

Once you admit, which is to confess, how you feel about certain aspects of yourself and your life you allow yourself to realize you don’t need to stay in that state of mind any longer! It’s when we deny or pretend the complaints, worries, disappointments are NOT there is when we block ourselves from moving forward with positive change.

Exercise #2:

Get a notebook because you’ll be working with this for a week or more. Create categories to help keep your thoughts organized. Here’s an example.

Physical: Start with your body. How do you really feel about it? Unhappy with the tummy? Wish the legs were a bit more defined? Write down all the feelings and thoughts about your body. You can even begin with “I admit I have these thoughts and feelings….” because now you’ve brought it out into the light!

Move out to the place where you live. Your house or apartment. The neighborhood. Some things you have no control over and this isn’t about running away from situations. Again, it’s about acknowledging your thoughts and feelings.

What about your car or mode of transportation – write it all down!

Financial: What are your thoughts/feelings about your back account? Debt, your job or lack of employment? Get the idea?

Mental: What are your thoughts about yourself or the world around you? I admit I complain about this or that. I admit I don’t think very highly of myself. I feel inadequate when….

Spiritual: What are your beliefs about God? Do you have any? Do you believe you’re being punished? Not perfect enough? Are you angry at a particular church or priest or minister? Do you remember who you are as spirit? Write it down!

Again, the idea is to till the soil of your subconscious mind to bring up all the old stuck ways of thinking and feeling. After you’ve taken the time each day doing this, go back and write down the positive things in each category. This will help neutralize any discomfort during this important process. I like to end each session by blessing everything I have no matter how I feel about it at the time. And remember, once you truly accept where you are the good news is – you don’t have to stay there!

Have fun!

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